Went on date with a Christian man. He’s what I’ve been praying for (man of faith, reasonably successful, likes me) but I don’t feel physically or intellectually attracted. In fact was a little grossed out. He picked at his hands and at food in a way that made me lose appetite. Had pimples on face and kept scratching his scalp so while he didn’t smell, I questioned how clean he was. Teeth somewhat stained. Backpack dirty-ish. Jeans got some marks from picking on food and rubbing off on them...

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I’ll be honest, sounds like he isn’t the one.

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I wish it could work. 🙁

I think I agree with B&C1. God will bring the best person across your path.

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Hard to believe when the right person hasn’t come yet. But will keep praying!

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You should feel excited about the person you choose.

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Thanks for the reminder. I think so too, especially at the beginning.

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Thanks guys. I think I'll let him go and not waste his or my time. Sad. Please keep me in your prayers! Thanks agains!

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Happy you can go this. It's really hard to grow attraction. You should be able to admire and respect your spouse

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I agree

On the intellectual side, conversation is a little flat. We’ve been talking for 3 months even though we’re only meeting now and this has been a consistent observation of mine.

Otherwise, he’s a perfectly nice guy, very strong in his faith, smart enough to have a master’s and reasonably good prospects, and probably clean enough, and I could like him if some of the things mentioned above could change. I’m also 32 and want to be realistic about my options and timeline. I’m praying but confused about what to think or do. Especially since he’s asked to meet again and has been clear he wants to make this work. Any thoughts or advice? Are these things other people have been able to overcome? Thanks!

Accenture 1, agreed that he was probably on his best behavior which is what was concerning to me.

I think he could probably change on the physical stuff but that would be too much to expect I think. On the intellectual side, I highly doubt it.

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