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Going on a social media detox, living more intentionally, and being more present in my life really did a great deal for my mental health. The moment I stopped paying attention to what other people were experiencing and achieving and just focusing on my own state gave me the clarity I needed.
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The right therapist. Exercise you enjoy. Meditation. Practicing gratitude and doing healthy things that help you live *in the present.*
Depression is living in the past. Anxiety is living in the future. Inner peace is found in the present.
@ OP, I second gratitude practice. It literally changed my life in such an overwhelming way that I cannot describe.
I bought a gratitude journal and started writing things down every day.
At first, it seemed silly to me, but I took the time to really think deeply about things I am grateful for, what I appreciate in a present moment and other helpful prompts. I felt my mood drastically elevated from day to day.
This journal cost me over $30, but it was the best $30 I spent on any type of book.
Some days I write deep things down and others, I am grateful that I can walk across the street from my apartment and get that cup of delicious Starbucks :)
I've learned that toggling between intense periods of work and then downtime works well. I'm a producer, so I am very much working project to project and can turn things down to get those rest periods, but I believe in many other jobs there are busy seasons and then less intense ones. I think it's worth figuring out which kind of person you are - one who likes the back and forth or one who likes a more moderate environment overall. What I can tell you is that I don't know anyone who can sustainably work intense hours all the time. And in terms of the innermost level of peace - while it sounds trite, meditation really helps. That could be religious and spiritual or simply mindfulness, but getting a core purpose as a person and incorporating that is pretty essential to me.
Thank you so much! <3 That's really helpful. I do believe that the pace of life impacts our peace tremendously. I have a hybrid schedule, but I am a little busier now than usual, so that's probably contributing to it. I need to meditate more often. How long do you spend meditating each day?
For me the answer was therapy. It takes hard work but I truly was able to change my life. I still have ups and downs but now I understand where the down periods come from and I have coping mechanisms.
That makes sense. What type of coping mechanisms do you find most helpful?
So there have been a couple of things I've been doing cause I was feeling very similarly. 1) Wind down AT LEAST 1.5 hours before bed, including putting some relaxing music on and journaling - gratitude, scripting, reflection. 2) working out in the mornings and meditating right after and also, I got this great manifestation journal...while I don't necessarily believe in it, I do think the journal prompts helped me figure out what I wanted in each aspect of my life, which is huge
Idk if I can link stuff here, but would look up DreamyMoons - her Manifest journal (and her other products) are GORGEOUS
Except for therapy, meditation worked really well for me! It helps you control the anxiety and also make peace with yourself and different aspects! Use an app like Balance, headspace, calm etc. I love balance btw
Being in my line of work meant that I was exposed to emotionally and mentally gruelling situations, and sometimes that can get to you. Therapy and journaling was what helped my tune into my thoughts and feelings and gave me the release I needed.
Look into breathwork. Controlled, steady breathing causes our bodies to go into relaxation mode, which lowers heart rate, relaxes muscles, calms the nervous system, and quiets the mind. Simply take a seat, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths from your belly. You'll quickly feel a sense of calmness wash over you.
You might discover peace when you spend time in nature, for example by taking short walks or simply admiring it. Your mind can be kept from thinking about difficult things by spending time in nature and breathing deeply. Exposure to nature on a regular basis will provide you the chance to manage the stress of ordinary life.
This is a good reminder. I always feel calmer when I spend time in nature. It's a little trickier in the winter, but I should definitely get out and go for a nice walk somewhere lovely when the weather is nice. Maybe this weekend!
Although the goal of meditation is not to stop thinking, it can be a useful tool for taking a break from the outside world and observing your internal processes, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant. You learn to simply watch and accept things as they are when you're in a calm mental and emotional condition.
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If you can’t change a situation, change your perspective. Not saying “toxic positivity” but being realistic without being overly negative. If you want to change something make a plan and commit to it, even if it takes months, a year or years. Remember that every situation is temporary. Manage expectations more realistically. Find joy in the small, mundane everyday things. I deal with low key anxiety 24/7 and have had depression my whole life but re-training how your brain responds to things that trigger you goes such a long way in making anxiety and depression manageable, especially if you have tried medication/don’t want to use it. The power of the mindset is truly life changing.
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It’s easy to be overly negative when you have depression/anxiety, so you have to regulate those emotions. If a situation is triggering those feelings, try to think what can I do about this in the next 5 minutes? If I walk away for a moment, can I figure out how to respond (v reacting / over reacting)? What will make me feel better about this? What is in my control v what is not? Sometimes when there is nothing I can do, I want to vent so I will call my sister and just tell her I need to complain for a minute. Sometimes I don’t want advice, sometimes I like to know her thoughts. Categorize long term problems v short term problems. Fix what you can in the short term, make a plan for long term. I can get in a bad funk for 2-3 days. Having a self care routine I can do at home makes me feel better - hair mask, face mask, do my own nails. Sometimes I like to pick a room and just go to town cleaning the house. It redirects my anxious energy somewhere else.
Medication I tried twice when I was younger and personally it wasn’t for me, but I know people who swear by it. I did have therapy in the past, and it was helpful to identify what some of my mental health problems were but long term I didn’t get much out of talking to someone all the time. It can be helpful but realize not affordable for everyone. There’s so many resources online now, therapists who share knowledge on Instagram etc, techniques and ways to rethink a situation. It doesn’t happen over night but seeing the change in my mindset now v myself 2, 4, 8 years ago, it’s comforting how far I have come just learning how to emotionally regulate. In retrospect I always feel better about myself when I respond to a situation with composure. I’ve over reacted many times and let my emotions get the best of me and I always feel bad after but it’s all situations I grew from. When you can break those patterns you retrain your brain a little bit each time.
You have to realize that some battles just aren't worth fighting. One example, you keep waiting on people to change so they can treat you better. But the thing is, no one is ever willing to change themselves for someone else, this is reality. They will change if they want to. Let it go.
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Meditation or tapping.
Therapy and moving near close family members worked for me
Hi there! I'm a designer and a strategy that we always use in design is to provide end-users a space where they constantly or regularly have interactions with nature. Especially with institutional, hospitality, and residential design. This is the best way we can improve an end-user's emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual well-being.
Learn to let go. Unfinished business and pending issues stop you from giving your mind a rest. Let go of grudges or whatnot. Everything that's keeping your mind from achieving peace, draw them to a close.
You can start with overcoming your fears. Take note that you don't have to face them altogether. One step at a time. I read this quote before "Courage in the face of fear sets the stage for happiness".
Make your priorities clear. With all the things we worry about all the time, we find it difficult to identify which ones are really important and which ones you shouldn't even waste time worrying about because not everything you pay attention to is important. There are things in your life you could leave behind and be better off with.
On top of all the other kind and wise things that have been shared I would add, it can be truly wonderful to find a way to be of service to others.
There are times when it is very difficult to be on this planet, but bringing joy and help to others can really turn the tide. Good luck, OP.