Would you do a long distance relationship? Especially if there’s no plan to relocate and live in the same country in the near future?

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That’s not a relationship. That is a pen pal and possible vacation/ trip buddy

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No, don’t waste your time. It just keeps your from getting into a real relationship.

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No what’s the point? I’d consider staying in touch and revisiting the situation if the circumstances changed, e.g., definite date to be in the same city, but otherwise I think it’s too hard (speaking from experience)

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Long distance is the wrong distance

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I did. Made the decision 5 years ago. I know I wouldn't move to his country, and he wouldn't move here. But I was really happy to be with him. My lifestyle is always to live in the present moment and remember YOLO. 5 years later today, we changed a lot. Now we're still in different countries, but he's willing to move here for me, and I'm willing to move to his country too.

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But are you

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No

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No, you wouldn’t have a life together.

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No

Never

Don't. No matter how good you think he or she is, there's someone just as good close by who you can actually build your life with. Distance is not building a life together.

I have. I loved it for however long it lasted.

I think to each their own. If you think it's worth it, try. If it ends up not being for you, it'll be hard but maybe a learning experience for what your boundaries are.

Yes but it depends on the person.

I think a full blown monogamous relationship is tough if there is no plan to eventually be geologically close. But would enjoy it while it plays out.

Damn, “geologically close” turns me on.

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