A female superior commented on my chest infront of an entire team... idk why I'm struggling to rationalize this. Should I report to HR?

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Can you elaborate more on what was said? Was it about clothing / attire? What the perceived intention was? How did others react?

I literally cannot imagine a female superior of mine (as a woman myself) commenting on my breasts….

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DMed you. And yeah I couldn't imagine it myself. If it wasn't for her repeating the question several times I wouldn't have believed it.

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Report, report, report.

I, too, am a female with a nice chest. I understand how uncomfortable it is to be painted as the office bimbo. Comments like that are only going to further that. If she’s doing it to you, she’s going to do it to others. You are in the position to stop that. Even if HR doesn’t do anything, you’ve done your due diligence, which is all that matters. I know it’s not easy, but I think it’s the right thing to do.

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I’m so sorry, OP. If you’re comfortable, could you DM me with what was said? I would advise going to HR but would need additional info to confirm

Talk to the person first. Thats what adults do. If the person is then a jerk, then you can deal with it.

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