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Anyone who has recently resigned from ibm? When you initiare a separation process from workday, it goes to manager for approval. I asked HR and there is a due date mentioned on that process. Does that mean that if manager does not approve before the due date, my resignation is declined? What is the impact and what is meant by that due date? IBM
Dear Fishes, I got C1 Solution Architect in wipro digital and sr manager -project in Cognizant in Mumbai.Cognizant Wipro CTC 34 in cognizant and 32 in wipro. Fixes in Cognizant is 32 and wipro is 27.2
What kind of project and work i can expect from both the company and which will be a best option for mumbai location.
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You have two options:
1. Break up with your gf
2. Never leave consulting
Both will get old. Be happy now
Give it a month and if things don’t change then break up you should enjoy spending every second with your significant other.
I think people who say they are happy being around each other 24/7 for several weeks either are happy despite the circumstances and somewhat annoying things of their SO, or they don’t view them as annoying/ care too much about their SO’s habits (in terms of lower your expectations). I think every person has the potential to trigger you at some point, it is just a question of how you deal with it.
Relationships are all about understandings and adjustments. No two persons in a relationship are 100% match. May be you liked something in her in the first place and now you are learning something new in her that you never got a chance before. Treat this as an opportunity for making a wise decision.
Don’t be rash and hasty with this. The initial phase of moving in with someone (or spending a significant amount of time with someone) is a major adjustment period. For all you know, she may be feeling the same and not voicing it. As someone said earlier, give it some time and then evaluate whether these are just growing pains or if this really isn’t the person for you. Then make the decision.
If it annoys you now, it will only get worse.
Let me mark this to read later for potential soap opera material...
I've been happily married for 17 years. My wife does many things that annoy the hell out of me... as I'm sure I do to her as well. If you're looking for someone who doesn't have any annoying qualities then you are going to be looking for a LONG time. The big thing is to make sure that they are annoying qualities that you can live with. 😂
Did you talk to her about it? Seems like a simple conversation and I am sure she will make changes. Trust that you will never 100% like the habits of your significant other but think about whether it’s a make or break or really
Important in the scheme of things. Give her time to change after you talk to her about it and if it’s important to her she will change !
Maybe you should focus on your billable hours and you girlfriend will be so impressed she changes her behaviours
Everything that irritates us about others can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves. Said Carl Jung.
Think you should fake a positive COVID-19 and at least that’s an excuse to separate. Just sayin’
You are given the opportunity of first glimpse to a married life my brother. Best of luck!
One thing to remember- there is a huge difference between 24/7 and normal married life. Things that are relatively minor irritations in “normal” life assume huge proportions when you can’t get away from each other during the workday, and you add on the stress of worrying about the impacts of COVID re health of family, yourself, work, economy, etc. Be cautious of making huge life-altering decisions without taking the impact of these factors into account. This will pass and we will return to more normal times, and stress levels will become more manageable. Meanwhile, look for relief - yoga, meditation, music, wine (but not toooo much!)
Hey OP. I also like things neat and tidy. My person is opposite. But not as gross as your gf wow. Also my person is making an effort.
So I guess what I want to say is that not everyone will be as neat/clean as you but there will be people who are not as bad as your current gf. Does that make sense? Like you don’t have to settle even as there is no perfect person. I also think about how I might be so bored and annoyed by someone who is as clean or cleaner than me.
The other thing is about respect and effort. It’s still your house. Why can’t your gf respect your no-popcorn-in-bed rule? Why can’t she treat the place nice? If she can’t behave imagine how she would be staying at your parents for a weekend. My messy boo is still messy but he’s making an effort and things have changed and it’s amazing to feel that difference. You can find someone who loves you and tries hard even if they are not exactly like you in their habits.
Op I bet you thought let’s save some money and share an apartment. 🤣😂 You live and learn. What did you learn? Tell the truth...
As expected
Thats a pretty good indicator of what the marriage might be like. Its a sign. An exit sign.
Take that as your exit. Save yourself now.
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So many great responses here.
First world problem. Next.
just throw her out