What are some thoughts that get you out of your breakup sadness zone? I need to borrow them.

1. Have a better life than the one you imagined with him
2. Build a big life. Being rich and famous solves everything.
3. Mind your business. Be the main character in your story.

Seeking advice either from anyone already working for US GOV or any advice on how to get into it. I’m interested in working for IRS or Veterans with pm work. Any advice?

I also want to help my dad get into a permanent GOV role before he needs to retire, he’s been rejected by gov roles and can only work travel roles with fema, I don’t want him traveling as he’s getting too old and I just lost my mom a year ago. Any help would be appreciated!

had a level 3 lock down today (active shooter/imminent threats). no one was harmed but it left me wondering what else can I have in my classroom or do to keep my kids safe or fight back? (Hacks/tips)

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Completely off topic
I don't have any friends.. sometimes i feel very lonely.. i don't have anyone to share my thoughts or feeling.. there is this void.. trying to pickup things to distract myself but it's not helping much... Seeking your inputs!! Sorry for this off topic question.

So my partner and I been dating for 5 months. But he's a man of literally very few words. What can I do to connect with him on deeper level, or any suggestions of questions I should ask him? To get know him better or to open up

Thinking about moving from Seattle to San Diego, but don’t have any friends down there. Any advice for how to meet queer friends?

Anyone knows and/or recommend a divorce lawyer in the Bay Area. Starting the process for an uncontested divorce. Please comment or DM me.

Heading into the EY office in Boston tomorrow, have been working out of a 2 bed room 1,200 SqFt apartment with a son (now 3.5 years old) for the last year and a half. Can’t wait!

How many folks here looking to actually connect for serious relationship (potentially converting to marriage)?

I’ll start 🙋🏻‍♂️ 30, located in the US (east coast) - open to worldwide relocation.

We recently sleep trained our 7 month son. He went from waking up multiple times during night and taking only 30 minute naps 3 times during day (most cases nursed to sleep or rocked to sleep or took a drive) to sleeping 12 hours at night without interruption and two 2 hour naps and one 45 minutes nap during day. We both love that he is getting enough sleep and well rested on one hand. On the other hand, we are now wondering if he is sleeping way too much.. contd…

I’m currently a third year in my small firm’s life sciences team. I’m not really stimulated by the work and although they say they have a lot of work, they’re not good at managing workload. I haven’t had much work on my plate even after asking many times for more than six months. I’m ready to move to a larger law firm. However, I am concerned how I’ll manage the workload as a mom to a toddler. The good thing about my firm is that they’re flexible with hours. Anyone have experience balancing?

How to stop feeling insecure that boyfriend will meet someone else when he goes out/goes to music festivals? He has never given me a reason to doubt him but I can’t shake this feeling of insecurity every time this happens

Is it ok to look for one night stands while on road and not feel guilty.. does it mean I dont love my girlfriend?

Comforting others:
When someone tells me bad news regarding their health, I say everything I am supposed to say (I’m sorry to hear that, I’m here for you, etc) EXCEPT “everything is going to be ok”. Because I can’t guarantee that and I really don’t know if everything is going to be ok. I was taken aback recently when a friend told me I am calloused and cold-hearted for not being able to say those words. Is she right? Should I start saying this for the purposes of providing comfort only??

Serious question: if you are interested in someone but they want to wait till marriage before you know... Would you end it or wait with them?

Pregnant with my third child now and wondering what is the right time to tell work. I did it really early with my first two because I wanted to plan ahead, but now thinking about it, I feel like it just set me up for failure those years because I was reassigned from tasks and kept underutilized.

Has anyone found dating having kids challenging?

My two young toddlers are home from daycare for the next 1.5 weeks for the holidays, and I have off work to watch them. It’s only been 2 days, and I’m so exhausted that I’m counting down the days until I go back to work and they are in daycare. Does anyone have any tips for enjoying this time? I love my kids so much, but how do SAHMs do this every day? I’m so drained already, and I have no patience left…

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

Currently a 2nd yr lit associate (big law) in NY considering a move to a TX big law firm for the financial opportunity. Would leave to hear thoughts on this type of move or from someone who’s done so!

Alright, Fishbowl - whats the juiciest gossip you heard this week at work?

Started at a big firm in July with high hopes- in the career path I wanted and I would be joining with other new grads.
After onboarding, it’s as if my team forgets about us every day. The training is non existent, there doesn’t seem to be any initiative to invest in new hires, my manager scolds me for not knowing enough yet gives no direction. I don’t want to waste time (colleagues mentioned it doesn’t get much better from here). Do I embrace the suck or look for other opportunities?

Hi

I have an work experience of 14 months in Domestic BPO and 28 months of experience in International BPO. Currently I'm working on agent level on a CTC of 25k but unfortunately i was not able to complete my graduate thats why i am not getting any chances to get promote nor I'm getting any salary hike, so if anyone can inform me where should i have to apply so i can get more than my current CTC...

Hello, anyone from Infosys bpm? One of my relative wants to prep up for interview there and I dont have much understanding of its own. She is an ARTS Graduate, looking for some beginner levels only. Any topics in particular or any interview experience if that can be helpful.

Does HCL give any joining bonus to immediate joiners?

Looking for ideas on where to start the search for a Salesforce Consultant Role/SA or something similar as an expat in countries like UAE, Oman, etc. Potentially even Singapore or Australia. Where should I begin to look to apply?

I’ve never negotiated a salary before… any tips? The offer is for a boutique consulting firm with 2 YOE. The project work aligns exactly to my current role.

Base: 125k + COLA
Bonus target: 10%
Sign on bonus: 10k

Current base: 115k
Current bonus target: 15%

Hey fishes, would be joining the PwC AC DDVIT team soon. Have some questions:

1) is this the same team as Strategy& practice under pwc?
2) how is the work life balance here? Avg. Working hours and timeline?
3) what are some benefits?
4) are there on-site opportunities? If yes only US or Europe too?

Hey anybody signed up for AYDE on 24th?

Everyone going office regularly?

So do higher ups (managers/directors/etc) in FFD talk to each other about the progress of seniors and associates in a similar manner to how the staff are ranked during audit roundtables??

Anyone else finding it very difficult to get any enjoyment out of account management these days? Any coping tips? I feel like being an account person is especially difficult in the COVID era since so much of what we do is manage communications, ensure the team is set up well etc. None of this feels particularly fun alone staring into the void of Zoom all day ... but the same pressure is still there. I feel like I spend every week counting down to the weekend which kinda sucks.

Congratulations!! You are getting that email, call and a meeting to announce the highest salary you have ever received in your career.

One suggestion, we had new team build 2 years back. All persons have left , only I am left with current project. even I resigned in Dec but got retained.
Now complete team left and I am only left in project as not getting much motivation to work on . Working as Project lead currently

Any suggestion???

What is your feeling about buying a 3BHK house on Sarjapur road for investment

Has anyone recently bought one anywhere in Bangalore primarily for investment purposes?

Any thoughts/ideas/help appreciated

How many chances can you give someone?

I was okay and then randomly saw photos of my ex that i didnt know existed in my message history to my friend (i deleted everything related to him the day we broke up) and it has brought back all the memories and pain. It has already been over two months. I hope this can go away.

Okay, it’s time to stop putting on a face about this. I love my boyfriend so much, but covid is ruining us. We are both still WFH and argue every few days about the dumbest stuff. My and his mental health are both diminishing and it feels like an impossible trench to dig out of. My stomach hurts every time we fight and I (independent of him) feel so stuck in this horrible global crisis. I don’t want to lose him, but I need to figure out how to dig us both out of this unsustainable mental state.

Going through a terrible breakup. Whenever I wake up, either in the morning or from a nap, I immediately uncontrollably cry because of the immediate thought that he is no longer next to me. The worst part is that we’re living together still (not talking or sleeping in the same room). I can’t even imagine what it will be like when we can finally break our lease. Does this feeling ever end?

I’m shooting 3 talks tomorrow, none of the talks have been written. I can’t stop thinking about him.

My boyfriend doesn't like to talk about his feelings. It's the time of year where he lost his sister (passed away) very suddenly and idk how to bring it up to him. I want him to know I know it's that time but feel like he'll just yell at me.

It’s been six weeks since he broke up with me and I feel like I’m still in shock. Like I’m in a nightmare I can’t wake up from. I just can’t believe he left me when he always said he never would.

Hope everyone is doing well and happy, recovering from the heart break ❤️

I miss being able to innocently and naively fall in love and trust that things will work out. After being so disappointed twice in a row i just feel like now i cannot trust guys anymore and what they say. :( once u learn something, you cannot unlearn

Welcome! Feel free to share any stories about marriage, divorce, other personal issues, etc. This group is to support, and provide POSITIVE advice/feedback to women who might be struggling with a personal issue. Keep it clean, keep it classy, keep it positive. Thanks!

The worst part of my breakup is the urge to obsess over his happiness with the woman he cheated on me with. Any tips?

How are all the lovely ladies doing today?! It's one of those days for me... Trying very hard with every breath to not check his profile and see what he's up to...
He broke up with me almost 2 months ago and it's just been death.
Some days very good and busy and powering through. Other days are hell. Pure hell

I am devastated. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years we were taking about getting married and having kids. Then I discovered he was also in another relationship - 2 years in.
He promised her all the same sweet stuff. I'm trying not to be too hard on myself but I'm not sure I can recover from this.

My boyfriend is texting his best friend's girlfriend. He openly says "oh i texted her about x" to me and I believe him...but my concern is that they're going to start some sort of flirtationship. She's some sort of model and has even told her boyfriend that my boyfriend is funny whereas she says her boyfriend is obnoxious. Is this something to worry about? We're not in a great space right now so Idk what to think.

How do you actually find a decent person to date when you’re working 80+ consulting hours? Like seriously...everyone I know who recently got engaged or married had been long term dating since high school or college. What has worked for people?

I finally move out in two days and as the day gets closer, it gets so much harder. I love him and it hurts. Even right now, I’m still living with him and I’m in the living room watching tv and he’s working at his station. I think soon I’ll just be occupying my own time alone and not with the person I love. Idk how people do this.

Had another dream about my ex. I asked him questions on why he changed. He answered just let go. I think now my brain is finally starting to fully acknowledge there is only one path forward.

Currently going through divorce proceedings. I honestly don't want to date anyone right now but I have this fear that I'm already 28 and I'll never meet anyone good. I went on some apps and matched with some guys but I feel like they're all the same and I don't wana get to know anyone. But I'm also scared for my future.

My friend invited me to hang out with her and her friends because I was feeling very sad about my breakup. Three of her friends end up hitting on me and just really invading my personal space. I honestly thought they had a joke or game of some sort. I tell my friend it makes me uncomfortable because it’s not something I’m looking for atm. She says I should take it as a compliment, but the only thing I feel is disgust that I now have to look forward to guys only wanting me for my body 😔