Any book recommendation on managing or working with difficult people.

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No book rec, but I have read some helpful articles on this topic that HBR has published

Surrounded by idiots by Thomas Ericsson. Decent enough but can’t apply it 100% as theoretical but interesting enough. Good luck OP, been in that situation

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