Anyone feel guilty taking maternity/paternity leave offered by your company? My company offers 12 weeks leave, but I’m weirdly dreading giving my boss a couple months heads up, at the risk that my reputation will take a hit. It’s a busy time all year so really no good time to take it but I just feel bad that I’m even asking. Anyone feel this before?

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Would you not feel worse not being around your child and partner???

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Please don't feel guilty. Firm is supposed to take care of resourcing and work at that time. You are not wrong to ask for it. Don't feel bad

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No. You don’t have to take it all at once. Take your leave, don’t be ridiculous

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That is part of your compensation, would you feel guilty for receiving a paycheck

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In what world should anyone feel GUILTY for taking MANDATED leave for your family. This post feels like AI from some corporate tie.

You should NEVER feel guilty for leaving work for your allotted time to be with your newborn / new family. Sorry not sorry.

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Absolutely

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If you were an ER doctor , you are allowed to feel a bit guilty. I don’t know in what universe anyone should feel guilty for having a child. What reputation ? What a ridiculous thinking, no offense

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No guilt - I happily took mine. It's a benefit offered by the company. I'm sure your boss would be happy for you as well.

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Nope

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I get it and felt guilty too (took mine last year). Once you put in the notice it’ll feel a lot better, and once baby arrives you’ll feel so happy you did. Assuming this is your first, you’re in for a huge shift of perspective on what matters. You will chuckle at the fat that you ever felt bad stepping away from th corporate bs PAID to do something actually meaningful

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I do understand what u are talking about though, but I don’t think u should feel guilty, shift your perspective, think that as a parent you are in fact contributing to the society, your child is tomorrow’s teacher, nurse, doctor, etc. that helps the next generation

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At my firm (PE), it is encouraged and celebrated to take the time off, and gives newer members of the team welcomed experience and opportunity to shine.
No reputational hits should occur especially with such advanced notice. (I should mention that if you think your company is decent and a good place to work this will be the case, otherwise yeahh maybe not)

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You feel guilty because you care. You care about your job, your team, and doing the right thing. That’s a good quality.
Now take that same care and put it toward your family. Your baby won’t remember the busy season, but they will benefit from your time and presence.
Work will always be busy. There’s never a perfect time to step away. If needed, you can always find work again or adjust later.
You’re not choosing between being responsible and irresponsible. You’re choosing what matters long term.

Choose what lasts.

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You can definitely push it out if you are the non-birthing parent.

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I should add, I’d be about 10 months into the role too which I think is adding to the weird feeling of asking thinking I’m too new

Take advantage of the system because it will always take advantage of you when given the chance

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Heeeeellll no lol take that time. It’s literally bonding time with your child at an age thats gone in a flash. I dreaded returning to work & leaving my baby. When i was at Guidehouse, I started pregnant (granted I got the job when I wasn’t pregnant, the background check took 3 months lol). I waited until I hit 3rd trimester & then I told them. It’s their job to figure it out.

Cease thinking outside of Bonding With Your Baby. 12-weeks will go by so quickly you are going to wish you had more time. There is NO NEED To Feel Guilty (PERIOD).

We work in a at-will framework where the employer can let you go at any time. In that vein you should take advantage of the perks the employer give you

Assuming that this is your given right, why are you putting yourself through unecessary guilt? Do you think for one second that your family's happiness is prioritised by your company? Please quit the guilt and start putting your family goals above corporate goals!!!!

Our CEO makes 2,300x the yearly comp of our average worker... I don't feel bad in the least.

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