Anyone found a way to stop fights from lasting more than 24 hours..what's your secret? My wife and I don't fight often but when we do it drags on and on, no matter what I do.

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Tighten the cover of all the bottles to n the kitchen cupboards and drawers. She’s going to need your help at the end of the day to unlock them😜 you are welcome

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Thanks y’all for the likes and all. Funny enough, as a lady I am telling what works for me, for us. 🤣 when I see this, I just smile cos I know he’s calling a truce!

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Apologize 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Start packing your stuff to move out. Shell either ask where you’re going and try to stop you or she won’t. If she doesn’t just move on.

You both sound like you could use a lot of help and need to learn to have a mature adult
Conversation.

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Actually talk it out when you both have had time to simmer down. It’s easier to come to an understanding when cooler heads prevail. And actually “listen” to each other and understand what the actual issue is. It’s not always about who’s right, because more times than not, it’s just a misunderstanding of two different perspectives. Sounds like both of you seem to think that someone has to be the right one.

On the other hand, a common theme I see among couples is there are always underlying issues that are swept under the rug until there no more room under the rug. And then all hell breaks loose. Which is probably what’s going on in your case cause damn, +24 hrs is insane. Yall should def consider couples therapy. Best case scenario, it improves your marriage. Worse case scenario, it remains the same.

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Either have a drink together and laugh it off or have a drink alone and know that you will be in trouble for the next few weeks.

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24 hour fights? Oh wow. I would advise both of you to learn effective communication skills and humble yourselves. Why is it lasting 24hours? Is no one coming to apologize or humbling themselves to reflect and ADMIT where they were wrong during the argument?

Google "fighting fair"

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Listen it depends on the offense made! IJS

One time our fight lasted so long I asked her to marry me in the hopes it would lighten the mood

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If you are a fan of the yellow umbrella TV show, Lily and Marshall agreed to "pause" during fights. Also, bear in mind what one Latin lady said about her fellow women: our bark is worse than our bite. Part of the challenge is how to heal wounds. Sometimes you just have to let it go and lick your partner on the head. Works for my two male cats.

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You're licking your cats on their heads?

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Maybe fight more often? This way, you're not holding a lot of stuff back. Communicate more often.

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Listen sometimes it takes 24 hours to calm down so you don’t get reckless with your mouth! (From experience…celebrating 24 yrs of marriage this year)

We've never had a fight last that long. We rarely fight, and when we do, it's resolved within a few hours.

Tell my wife directly:
"So, how long are you planning to stay upset and angry? And what's the plan for dinner? Can you just admit I'm right so we can settle this before we eat? It usually gives her a reason to let it all out, maybe call me a few names...
And then I say: But I still love you and want to enjoy dinner with you, tonight and forever."

Works like magic.

Also, we only fight like once a year, and only over important stuff: my new car, my new watch...

Kidding about politics, we don't argue about how stupid the world politics are these days and how messed up the next election is !

But a shotgun and shoot, next time. If not possible, use pepper spray.

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