Asked out a girl to brunch and told her the location for our first date. She responded with this: “oh I don’t drive that far for a date lol unless you want to pick me up or uber “. Should I run or just pick her up? I never had anyone be so straightforward like this

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I would never let a guy drive me for the first date lol. I want to be able to leave immediately if something goes wrong.

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^100% !!

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You TOLD her the location? Why didn’t you ask what location would work well for her?

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Ask her what her mileage limit is. Just kidding. But seriously. Her reply sucks because it isn’t clear either. She also should have followed it with an ask. “I can’t drive that far, how about ____ location”…. She’s making this too complicated. No thanks. And I’m a girl. If I was single and a guy was doing this I’d be all over it, excited, and looking forward to it. If I was not interested in the place I’d recommend something else. Her leaving it open just blows.

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I live in the Midwest and saw your comment about 15-20 minutes- I agree that this is fine (and I'm a woman).

I would question if this is around the corner from you and 15 minutes for her, then I would have an issue with it, but I would never ask for a guy to pay for my Uber, and I would never ask a guy I've never met to pick me up (both of these because I don't want him to know my actual address)

Overall, it sounds like you guys aren't compatible of she's looking for more of a provider and that doesn't seem like your vibe

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I wasn’t so sure bc she also mentioned seeking for “care, commitment, etc” so I was leaning towards more emotional support…

Eeek. I would never ask a guy to pick me up for pay for my Uber on the first date or even the third. Then again I’m a crime junkie and think everyone is out to murder me and keep personal details private until it needs to be disclosed.

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But no, as a fellow chick this just screams demanding and high maintenance. But maybe that’s the vibes in LA?

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Send an Uber to pick her up and don't show up for the brunch date.

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This

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Don’t take it as a negative. She’s prob really good at articulating emotions, wants, and needs rather than you trying to second guess what happened, which is good if a relationship develops. I would write her off if she’s rude.

My response to her would be something along the lines, “I would be happy to get you an Uber rather than having a stranger pick you up at your place.”

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Yes, because Ubers aren’t driven by strangers either…

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Interestingly, I lined up a dinner date tomorrow night as well, but this date is cool about the location (much further than the brunch date), and I offered to pick her up, and she politely declined. She said she’ll just meet me at the restaurant. Much respect for this dinner date

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I am still waiting for her to respond back to me from Friday as I asked her a Q. Don’t really want to double text her

Imagine the awkward car ride back if you pick her up and brunch wasn’t great. But then on the flip side if brunch turns out great then you would look like a gentleman giving her a car ride back.

I feel like she’s testing you.

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How far was it, out of curiosity?
Most men try to propose something convenient for me, so I find her ask a bit surprising.

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My dinner date is hotter, so I am thinking about canceling this brunch date…

OP, how did you cancel? How did she take it, or how was the date?

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Just told her I’ve been thinking about our initial conversation and decided that it may not be a good idea. She said ok

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Also, I’d run. Sounds like she needs her daddy to drive her to y’all’s date. Her dad also probably pumps her gas tank for her.

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She may also not just be into you that much.

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Thats incredibly emotionally healthy. Keep it up

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It’s about 3 mile drive in LA, so like 15-20 mins. I don’t think this is that long of a drive

She might not feel the same.

that's her first shit test to you. pick a coffee spot near her.

5 miles in LA can take 30 minutes depending on time of the day

It takes 5-10mins on 101 and then another 5 mins local in Little Tokyo / Arts District

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