Being the only black person in group of 20+ is exhausting. I cry weekly bc I feel so isolated, my boss barely says hi to me in the office, I’m often the last person to know about things and I truly don’t feel like I’m getting the same support as my other peers. Also when it comes to social events I’m not looped in

I’d leave but I’ve been job hopping during the pandemic and my partner is really encouraging me to stay for at least a year.

Just wanted to rant, sometimes it’s just hard.

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I really hope they're not intentionally ostracizing you. It's just a lot harder to include other people in your circle when it's already been established. Don't take it to heart. Maybe they're also struggling to reach out like you are. Don't wait around for them to take notice in you. Approach them and actively communicate about your intentions of making friends. Hang in there.

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I used to feel this way, it really just came down to me asking to be looped in more and actively trying to form connections with the folks I worked with. Sucks feeling excluded but if they're not recognizing it yet you just have to be transparent and call it out. They cant read your mind; vocalize your concerns love.

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But thank you for the advice regardless

I'm so sorry you've been feeling this way. I've been in the same situation before. Some people will never connect with you the way you want them to, but there might be a chance with others. I would focus on finding one or two people to be friends with instead of looking at the office as a whole. Just trying to be helpful, but I know when you're experiencing these feelings and situations, it's excruciating. And the stress of feeling isolated can take a toll on your mental health. Please take care of yourself. <3

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I'm so so sorry to hear this!! Can I just say - there IS better out there! I stayed in a role that was similar to what you are describing because I felt like I wasn't qualified for anything better but I was so wrong! Please explore other avenues,. trust me you're meant for better things!

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I'm so sorry to hear this, OP. It's such a tough situation to be in. I can never wish this on anyone. Do you feel like it's time to go? I don't think things will get better back there if you feel this on the daily. Remove yourself from that environment as soon as you can, but only if you want to.

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I feel this so much. Even when I am looped in to attend social events I feel very awkward and find it hard to connect with people because I’ve been excluded so long.

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I'm actually dealing with this now and it makes the day drag. I'm young and really the only black person in the office and it takes alot of energy to try and hold conversations and seem "tuned in". What helps is that I keep my airpods near by to listen to things that refresh me or sometimes have a quick conversation with a friend. It's not so bad once you find little ways to still socialize in ways that makes you feel comfortable

Hey I know I’m late to the party as I’m new to Fishbowl but just wanted to let you know your feelings are valid and you’re not alone. I feel the same way in my org. I’m not the only Black person but I am the youngest (only one in their 20s), and it can be awkward, and uncomfortable. If you ever need to rant again or talk I’m always down to listen, and open to make new Black friends in Finance/Accounting in general 🤎.

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