Breastfeeding on a zoom call. Yay or nay? Was awkward in the call today. With webcam on. No one said anything but can tell from the faces the bewilderment. 5 people call. 3 women and 2 men. Kept up to point and wrapped the call quickly. I am one of the males btw.

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Woman (and mom) here and think it is acceptable given the disruptions of daily life present in calls all the time now. Maybe “unprofessional” but so is your kid running around in the background interrupting you and I don’t think people would be so quick to say turn the camera off. I’ve done a few calls on video with my toddler sitting in my lap and would do the same if I were breastfeeding right now.

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As a woman, I think it’s unprofessional with the camera on—just as I would find it unprofessional if a colleague were eating on camera during a call. If you need to feed your child or eat during a call, turn the damn camera off.

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Female here, but that’s a big no. Would a woman seriously sit in the middle of an in-person meeting in a conference room and breastfeed their baby? It’s unprofessional. Just turn the camera off

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Exactly just turn the camera off. If anyone asks she could tell them she was breast feeding.

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Mom here who breastfed twins. Clearly breastfeeding is necessary and natural, but there is no way I would risk any boob being seen by work colleagues. It is very easy to just turn of the camera.

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The secret is to NEVER use your webcam. Set the expectation and then you can do whatever you need to on any call

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You are spot on. My webcam stays off - that way no one is ever expecting to see me.

Grow up- the baby needs to eat.

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Male with infant baby. In this situation, I tell my colleagues that the baby needs to eat, and turn the camera off when bottle feeding the baby. Why would I distract from the meeting? Why does my kid need to be on screen for everyone else to watch?

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The amount of social justice warrior like attitude on this thread makes me laugh/barf.

I think we can sort of agree to these few things:

Breastfeeding is normal.

Boobs are normal.

We got to do what we gotta do when wfh.

It’s distracting to nurse a kid while on a video call for both mom and meeting attendees or client.

It’s distracting for parent to bottle (mother’s milk or formula) feed a baby (or spoon feed a toddler). Could be distracting for meeting attendees/client.

Babies and children are normal.

While some people are confident in their bodies or behavior. Some coworkers/clients have different levels of comfortability with modesty/distraction level. Assume the lowest common denominator (especially in a globalized society). There are some conservative people. It’s okay.

If a boob incident happens it happens. I’ve seen worse at happy hours, holiday parties or company parties when those were a thing in 2019.

I think it’s pretty considerate to turn off camera to boob feed.

I wouldn’t want my baby+boob to be the most recent impression rather than the kick ass creative I just delivered.

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I am sorry, are we actually talking about (and judging) a woman feeding her child? Unless she is making it sexual, then there is no need to sexualise it or question her skills as a professional. It is time to normalize the most normal way to feed children.

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Totally fine by me

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Applaud her bravery 👏

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I think it’s fine. Babies need to eat. Male here FWIW 🙋‍♂️

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Literally just turn off your webcam Jesus Christ.

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Just turncamera off! Seriously, why would anyone do this on camera!? Signed- mom of 3

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You’re one of the males?! I’m shocked.

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Has anyone considered the fact that this new mom is probably sleep deprived and breastfeeds on autopilot and left the camera on totally unintentionally? Did OP speak to his teammate directly or are we all just speculating about this poor woman because we’re a bunch of assholes? Jfc

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Female here; hard no, not on camera. Turn your video off when there may be visual distractions for you or anyone else. Same goes for that handy mute button if there is unexpected noise.

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From a woman’s perspective I think that’s unprofessional and it would have been very easy to turn the camera off.

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Why couldn’t she just pump some breast milk before hand and use those during meeting hours? That’s a no no on her part. Some things are too much to be exposed on zoom calls. Passing gas and using the bathroom are natural also but you don’t want to do those during your zoom call

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If you are on back to back calls all day, not feeding (or pumping) on calls will eventually be impossible. If you don’t like it, don’t look. 🤷‍♀️

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Why do you care? What possible difference does it make to your life? If you’ve never seen it before, take this opportunity to educate yourself about human anatomy. Maybe there’s a debate about how it fits into traditional norms of “professionalism,” but that just leads me back to my original response, which was: Who cares? If you do, why? If it’s a client call, fine... you have to be aware that some people are assholes and will care... but internally, take responsibility for your culture and do the right thing, make this a nonissue.

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Shocked by these comments. Good for her! Time we start normalising breast feeding.

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I’m not missing the point at all; worry about yourself and what doesn’t impact you doesn’t pertain to you. If you don’t like it, pin someone else’s video and don’t look at it. This in my view is a healthy shift in positively shifting and normalising behaviours, that frankly, comparing this to the bathroom is trivial and unreasonable.

I’m currently a breast feeding mom. Personally, I turn the camera off when I need to nurse the baby during a call. But that’s my personal preference. If I kept the camera on, you wouldn’t be able to see anything... but I’d like to avoid thoughts like this.

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I have either turned camera off or angled it upwards so you couldn’t see anything. However that’s a personal preference. I don’t think anyone would care. But my office is all women and one male.

No, and it has nothing to do with breast feeding. I don’t eat on video calls. I don’t call other family members to eat on video calls. That is weird.

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