Confession: if it wasn’t for my dog I’d already off myself. But because I made a commitment to him I’m going to stick around for as long as he’s here. Dark I know but it’s just one of those nights

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I got my first pup during one of the darkest points of my life and so I understand that feeling. The need to feed him, take him out and take care of him in general is what got me out of bed most days. If I’m honest that still true today during certain episodes.

That said, it would be easy to stay in that mode of relying only on your pup as a support system. But try your best to avoid that urge and instead seek help. Find a therapist - most insurance plans cover them with a small copay. Even if that’s not the case invest a little in getting the help. The simple act of talking about your feelings out loud is therapeutic.

Sometimes medication is needed. Therapists or psychologists cannot prescribe. You need a PCP or a psychiatrist to prescribe. If you haven’t done a doctor’s visit lately it’s a good time to go in for a checkup and make sure you tell your doc how you’re feeling.

If there is a parent, sibling or a close friend (or once close friend) that you can confide in please try to do that as well. This is not a substitute for therapy because these people won’t likely know how to help. But the importance is to have someone you can call or go visit when you feel your self getting into the darkness.

And finally, not sure if you’re very active nor not. Depression usually makes it difficult to get motivated to do things. But I highly encourage you to build a practice around at least 30 mins of physical activity a day. Walks outside in nature for at least 30 mins will help you a lot. Bonus points if you get some sunshine while you do it.

Sending hugs and love from me and my pups. There’s a reason you’re here. Don’t do anything drastic 🙏. It will take time to feel better but take little steps.

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Suicide hotline-text/call 988.
Dogs are the best, but please keep this number on your fridge and use it if needed. 🙏🏼

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I understand. My dog saved me too. Keep hanging in and loving on him. Remember that there IS such a thing as unconditional, non-transactional love, and our babies remind us this each time we come home and are greeted with such excitement and joy. You’re loved and you matter. You’re his whole world and the world is a little better because you’re still here.

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Love, compassion and caring are the most important feelings in life and reasons to live. So no shame about it.
However not only your dog deserves your love, compassion and care, but you as well! So loving and caring for you is reason enough to continue to live.

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And if it is difficult for you to gift these to yourself, always remember there are many other dogs next to your dog who would love to return these to you!

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Been there done that. I struggle with my mental health and some time are better than others. I picked up my girls today and they were so happy to see me. Both are laying on me with a momma sandwich. Depression is so hard and when in a down cycle it is hard to pull up.

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