Do you find ever yourself to be upset with friends who have no debt and are buying houses, etc. because their parents paid for everything? How do you deal with that?  

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I used to be really upset by this. But then I started to recognize the way in which I had my own set of privileges. Moving to a developing country for a few years really shed light on how lucky I am to even have student loans. I know that sounds weird, but I needed that context.

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TFS1, I don't think its "weird" to compare yourself to others I think it's pretty normal but.. that's besides the main point of E1. I think that's a great perspective to have!

I grew up in foster care in a poor state. Statistically I had just about every disadvantage. I turned out ok, but it makes me wonder how much more successful I’d be if I grew up in a privileged household that made $40 or $50K

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Same! But look at us now. I do have student loans, but I also bought a home right out of college.

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This is called envy. Compete against yourself, not against others.

It’s called envy. Stop comparing yourself to other people. It will get you nowhere. You are where you are, and you get to fight through and overcome this hardship. You will be stronger for it.

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