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I used to be really upset by this. But then I started to recognize the way in which I had my own set of privileges. Moving to a developing country for a few years really shed light on how lucky I am to even have student loans. I know that sounds weird, but I needed that context.
TFS1, I don't think its "weird" to compare yourself to others I think it's pretty normal but.. that's besides the main point of E1. I think that's a great perspective to have!
I grew up in foster care in a poor state. Statistically I had just about every disadvantage. I turned out ok, but it makes me wonder how much more successful I’d be if I grew up in a privileged household that made $40 or $50K
Same! But look at us now. I do have student loans, but I also bought a home right out of college.
No. Why are you upset with someone for the sacrifices that their parents made for them? Do the same for your kids instead of getting upset with them for something completely out of their control. Sheesh.
SA1, I asked for how people deal with these (what I and many others feel are normal) feelings and then suddenly my character is getting attacked. 🙄 Trust me I know how to celebrate wins. I just don’t know if I’d be overtly celebrating the fact that my parents bought me a house as a “win”. That can be a quiet celebration, not a gloating one.
No I find myself more upset with how lazy that made them.
My sister and had have completely different upbringings and….you can tell.
Yes. And women who married wealthy young who have an enjoyable home side business just for fun.
Wouldn't it be nice to be a stay at home wife with a fun hobby that makes you money on the side?!
Nah, I can't. Can't have that jealousy bug. Waste of energy.
I don’t get upset; I get a bit jealous, though. But I honestly tell all my employees that if a parent is offering, take it. My mom couldn’t help even though she wanted. If a person wants to and can - take that help!
Yeah definitely. If I had it given to me I would 100% take it, why wouldn't you?! But can't help but sometimes wish I was given it too
I wouldn't use "upset" for how I feel, but I know exactly what you mean. It's more of a jealousy, but not in a malicious way. I am happy that my friends are no burdened by student loan debt, but I wish that I had been dealt the some cards so I wouldn't have to deal with it either.
This is exactly it!!!
Run your own race buddy. Stop comparing yourself to other people. What could you possibly be upset about.
Associate, now THAT leaves a bad taste in the mouth. When they talk about "the struggle" 🙄
Be grateful to have them in your life and keep on living baby!
You need to mind your business. Why are you upset at what’s not yours? Get your money up and stop comparing yourself.
I would have turned out quite different had I had parents who could have paid for my college. However, I had dear old Uncle Sam and his GI Bill to help, and now I'm using the Hazelwood Act to get another degree, and maybe even my Master's degree.
However, I do have student loans that are a big weight on my shoulders.
Good for you! Glad you can take advantage of some benefits.
Why would you ever be upset about someone’s else’s luck? Worry about yourself and be grateful for what you have. Having an evil eye and evil heart towards others only delays your luck/fortune. Be happy for people and live your life bud.
Just like how you can’t help your circumstances, neither can day
However what does irk me are the people who have this leg up yet LARP struggling/pretending having wealthy parents is not an advantage.
You can tell who's banking at the bank of mom and dad from the comment section here LOL.
Bc it’s technically not theirs either 🤣😂
It is theirs. However mad you feel about someone’s wealth won’t bring your wealth up. Being a hater does nothing to your money. Who cares that their parents gave them money!?
No, it's not like they chose to be born into those families, they just got lucky in the birth lottery. I'd only be upset if they acted ungrateful in front of me or if they gloated about how hard they worked for it. But even then, I don't really associate with people who act that way so this wouldn't be a problem in the first place for me. In any case, focus on yourself, what other people do with their time or money has no bearing on how your life goes.
Yeah I think that's the major thing, is people who brag about their hard work!
Jealous yes but upset ? No. It isn’t their fault they are privileged. Can’t expect them to turn it down.
Agreed, wouldn't expect them to either. Didn't use the right word!
Envy is your friend because it’s a sign that you want something for yourself that another person has.
So you have 2 options. Be upset that you have student loans or figure out a way to buy a home and work for it. So get envy to move you in the right direction. That way it won’t get toxic. Good luck! And yes I have massive student debt.
My whole life I’ve known people who have more than me, and also people who have less than me. I lost a lot of friends after becoming a lawyer because of jealous nasty behavior. Don’t do that to other people. Celebrate their successes. Be happy for them and be grateful for what you have.