Do you think there’s a stigma associated with being a single gay man in his 40s?

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No way. I think there’s more of a stigma associated with being a gay man in his 30s with a spouse and kids. People accuse them of wanting to be heteronormative.

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I agree.

Idk … my last ltr ended before my 40th bday, 41 now, and haven’t met a guy yet with mutual interest to pursue. Things work out the way they’re supposed to. Lately I’ve been getting tired of hookups, and craving real intimacy with someone. Plenty of guys to have sex with, but hard to find one to go on an actual date with me.

Not many men single around my age, so def feel left out.

There are some times I feel deficient, lonely, etc., but there are a lot of unhappy gay couples out there. I know many of them - basically roommates who don’t get along. But I do crave affection, and wish I had someone to love, and love me back. It’s hard knowing that there’s not anyone in the world who would miss me except for my cat. Have a lot of friends, but platonic deaths are quickly forgotten.

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No but kind of staring that down this year….

I have a few more years to go but I’m wondering already.

I’d say any person, irrespective of sexuality if single into 40s have a certain lifestyle that’s not compatible with general public. Obviously not talking divorce etc.

Seems fairly common in the gay community

Right? I know plenty of single gay men in their 50s.

Why is this? And why don’t you think there’s stigma? Because gay men get to make up our own rules?

I sure feel stigma from my straight parents that I’m single and being gay is kind of an added dimension.

My parents put no pressure on me to get married thankfully.

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