Does anyone have trauma from their previous work experiences that have carried into how you work currently?

I used to never get stressed or anxious. If I made a mistake, I’d fix it and move on with no emotions attached. But my first boss hated me, set me up to fail, and used every mistake against me. So now I experience anxiety with every mistake I make and assume my job is on the line each time I make a mistake. 😪

When you do a cut and you’re super excited and proud. And then the director weighs in and it gets even better! And then... the client makes it worse. And worse again. And worser still. Sigh.

What you should do when dealing with a very toxic worker that keep on sending passive aggressive messages to you as well as in group chat and email.
Things like when you answer his question he respond: I know that
Or when he keeps on saying my change requests were just minor in group meeting but actually not.
And keep on saying how hard he works when he clearly wasn’t and already underperformed compared to an intern level.

How to not let this toxic co-worker not poison me any further?

I recently joined Microsoft and see there is lot of internal politics ..i am not sure about all teams.but only my team

Managers are assigning good works to people who are close to them or favourite rather than good people ...is it true in all teams or only in my team..also it's not my individual opinion evryone gossiping the same in my team

What % do you guys charge a partner to advertise on social using your handle/ad account? Is a 100% markup fee plus an "agency" like fee for maintenance of 15% too aggressive?

I have a crush on my counsellor at work. She's much older but still really gracious and beautiful. Should I go for it or is this a bad idea?

My boss asked me to take care of some of the details of a project for her—the stuff that isn't really my area of expertise. And now I feel like a shirker because I haven't been able to finish them yet.

How do you deal with making mistakes at work? I’ve been doing good work lately but there’s one partner who thinks I’m mistake prone and I just made a mistake on something he asked me to do, but I corrected it quickly. However, there is public record of my mistake.

Part of a BD now, thinking of going on my own as RIA. Costs would be about 50% less, which makes it seem like an obvious choice. Have a deep family friend relationship with current firm, though. I don’t want to burn a bridge, but am I crazy to be a bit upset that the relationship could keep me from doing what I think may be right? Really struggling with that part of the decision.

When your seniors aren’t motivated and pulling their weight, it shows and demotivates you. It’s a domino effect. How do you handle these situations? The senior pushes every single thing down and it’s clear to everyone this person could care less. Makes me not care and not want to do anything either…

Any fishes here born in 2000’s ? How do you adjust yourself to the generation gap in your team?

Have you tried encouraging cards highlighting their strengths? When’s the last time you said “Thank you” out loud to everyone in front of everyone? Bought lunch? Participated in a team building event? Encourage a team atmosphere and keep the lines of communication open. Just my thoughts

Have a really good relationship with current company, but got an amazing offer and very likely gonna leave (signed the offer, waiting for all the background checks to come back). How do you tell your boss you are leaving the company (if boss is not a dick lol) and not ruin relationship?

What is too short (dress/skirt) in the work place?

What’s the overall feeling about presentation attire? Suit and tie?

Any thoughts on post-season moves for your team? I'm personally really pissed that the Canes are letting Niederreiter talk to other teams. He's a huge part of the team's success and I'm stunned.

Newbie consultant starting in a few weeks. What’s the attire like with government clients? Suits whenever on site? And are you typically on site all week except Friday?

Junior keeps sending me their work, but partner never asked me to review it. I am a mere one class year ahead of them. I’m not going to cover for their work product either. In spirit of transparency, How can I politely tell them they don’t need to keep doing this nonsense?

My coworker consistently comes in 30min -1hr late every day. Plus they have the balls to take long 1hr or more lunches AND leave early. Our manager doesn't seem to notice. How do I bring this up?

Name the most ridiculous micro-managing by partners that you experience.

I’ll go first: MP told me that on initial emails, I am always to start with “Hello [name],” but after the initial email, I am not to address her by name again in the same thread. Initial greeting can only be “Hello [name] ” because just first name is too brisk and a “Hi [name]” is too informal. Had a 5 minute, in depth conversation as to why she prefers it this way…

Can I still work as a telemarketer even though I have a noticeable accent? People don't say they can't understand me but they seem relieved when they get to talk to somebody else. My boss acts like I'm not very good at the job and I think it's because some customers think I am an "outsider," for lack of a better term. I just want to fit in.

I’ll finish my Master’s in Engineering Management in 1 year. How do I land a management level role at a tech company without management exp?

Is financial engineering a thing?

Hello guys, need good docs/website to learn S4 HANA so that I do not get lost in the sea of material available online. Please suggest.

Anyone interested in joining the MIA office of DLA Piper? All transactional areas (M&A, Capital Markets, RE, Tax, PE). Very flex hybrid environment and NY market salaries/bonuses. All associate levels.

What is a good OTE for a customer success manager located in SLC exiting Salesforce with three years of experience in strategic customer success. I am seeing initial offers ranging from $100k OTE to $160k. Salesforce Adobe Microsoft Qualtrics Celonis Inc

Anyone have a Soho House (cities without houses) membership here in ATL?

Is freelancing as a Photographer and Retoucher possible in LA or SF? Is anyone making that happen for themselves?

How do you tackle favoritism ? In market risk idk if that’s a trend here

First time participating in ESPP this last period. I received a heads up email that Morgan Stanley will get in touch to open a broker account, but not heard from MS themselves. Anyone in a similar situation?

New to due diligence and not sure the timeline of projects. Tips to stay organized of the project and timeline, and how to update those leading the deal? Just keep track of new info and provide as necessary?

What would be an appropriate gift if I want to show appreciation to my juniors before leaving the firm to go in house? What about for partner/counsel?

Want to move in the market for a Training Manager role or L&D role. What should be my ask?

I'm receiving low ball offers at 5l p.a. However, I'm looking for something at 10-12l p.a. Is it viable in the current market?

(1/2) I started a new job less than a month ago at a large firm with a significant pay increase. I work remotely- which is a special arrangement. They paid for my travel to their headquarters for in-person training. After interacting with my manager and some of the attorneys, I feel like I made a mistake. Manager is demeaning and rude. A bunch of the attorneys dropped not so subtle hints that people who work from home are causing all kinds of problems. I don’t know what to do.

Got an offer from a startup for 19.5LPA.
Its base is 15L, and I'll be getting 124800 in-hand.

I have 3.5 yoe in typescript/react/NEXTjs fullstack. Out of which only 10 months are on a full time role, rest of time was freelancing.
I am also an open source contributor for some NEXTjs related tooling.

Is this a good offer?

Hi fishes need some help
Can anyone tell me how is Capita India as company? Is it product based company as they claim? Also how is job security and wlb there? Are the projects and work good? Any input is much appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Hi Guys ,

With 11 yrs YOE and having skills in dimensional Modeling,data warehouse ,ETL and Reporting , what should be the salary expectation in market. I have switched from 12 LPA to 26 LPA on feb 2022 as my first switch with IC role as ETL developer . Now looking for data architect role. Most likely i am going to get more 35 LPA but Shall I negotiate for 40 LPA else should not join ? Is 40 LPA is good or very high ? Plz advice. Thanks.

Red pepper in Nashville?

I need help. I'm dealing with multiple losses in the same week and having a hard time... I took some time off from work but I have no motivation to do anything. I don't want to go back to work and don't care about my work right now. I want to quit but I don't want to make a rash decision but need a long break. It's also not fair to my team that I can't give it my 100%. What can I do?

Exhausted by entitled clients that are just plain nasty. Is it just me or are clients everywhere getting more demanding and treating their agencies worse?

Had to pull an all nighter and am convinced I will not make it through this day. Prayers are greatly appreciated.

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

If I had a dollar for every time my boss screamed “UGH C’MON” at his computer... It’d be enough to buy myself the medical coverage my company doesn’t provide. 🙃

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

I'm unemployed and my lease is up soon and I have no idea what to do. I don't live near family and my dog has behavioral issues and I've never been so stressed before in my life.

Tips for recovering from a bad interview at an awesome company? 😣 I already got the news that they’re not moving forward, yet can’t stop obsessing over the mistakes that most likely cost me an offer.

I started a new job recently and then had my PTSD seriously triggered, plus a panic attack. Felt so on edge and low on emotional resources for over a week that I wasn’t myself and apparently really rubbed a few people the wrong way so I was called in for a talking to 😣. I let people know there were some personal things going on, but didn’t mention the PTSD—very unsure if that’s something to share, or if I’d be judged for it or... I don’t even know. Has anyone else dealt with PTSD and had it impact them at work, and how did you handle it?

Any advice on dealing with an eating disorder in the workplace? Mine is taking over and my work is crumbling. I often can’t focus or remember anything from meetings or conversations because I havent..

I haven’t been feeling confident in my work and it’s stressing me the fuck out. How do you deal with this?

Would it be weird to send my ex a goodbye letter in the mail? He leaves for a military deployment soon for almost 1 year, and I generally care / miss him.

Have been having really stressful and vivid dreams since quarantine started. A few dreams have even been insanely disturbing. I’m on Zoloft & Wellbutrin. Therapist thinks it’s not related to the meds. Anyone else experience this and got through it? CONT’D

Who is bipolar and/or has major depression and/or has anxiety and/or is/has anything else? Who has been in a mental hospital? Who has been to rehab? Who sees a therapist? Who sees a psychiatrist? ...

Your secret weapon to deal with stress at the office?

Having one of the worst weeks of my life but my bosses would flip if I used a personal day. Meanwhile in the office I’m getting bitchy emails and attitude per usual. How does one deal / stay sane?

Anyone else dealing with anxiety around the uncertainty of continued remote work? We were so dysfunctional and unproductive in the office, the thought of going back is giving me nightmares.

Friendly reminder that depression is a protected disability. File paperwork with your company and they legally cannot destroy your health by overworking you.

I’ve gotten to the final stage in interview process at 5 places now to be told no. First and second interviews at a bunch of other places too. Starting to really feel drained. So much work for nothing

Have you felt like the industry (including job searching) left you contempt or jaded to the point, you’ve started turning into a nihilist?