Does being at home make anyone else want to get hit by a bus?

I feel like I can’t tell my mother anything without her using it against me, & just can’t be myself. I’ve been living at home for 2 years and at least pre-pandemic I could go to work and have a personality but now that I’m working from home, I’m constantly acting and pretending.

Cant vent to friends w/our my parents accusing me of being disloyal, can’t talk in a work meeting w/out being criticized, can’t do anything right.

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Moving back home has had its drawbacks for me as well. How I'm almost 30 and unmarried, gaining weight, how no guy will want a fat 30 year old to marry. The list goes on and on. You sound like to be in a toxic environment and they seem to be very condescending. I know you're probably saving up but is the cost savings worth the hassle of being butchered 24/7?

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Thanks for reply and I’m sorry you’re dealing with similar stuff :/ my parents want to create dating profiles for me on hinge/bumble/tinder and weed thru people for me

Yes, I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. I moved back home for grad school and had planned on moving out right after when I started my job but then covid hit and I ended up staying home longer than planned.

The pandemic has definitely made my parents more overbearing, paranoid and toxic. I suddenly have a curfew that I’ve never had before and leaving my house makes me anxious because of how negatively my parents react to me being out, even when everywhere I go is very covid safe (outdoors, away from others, etc.). My parents have also been especially negative and controlling during the pandemic. I think they’re trying to compensate for the lack of control they feel they have with everything going on by tightening their reins over their adult children. Definitely time for me to move out lol

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I buy presents and they aren’t expensive or thoughtful enough, I tell them about jobs I’m applying too and I’m getting I told you so you should have listened to me 2 years ago, I’m still getting criticized for my college major choice. My teeth aren’t straight enough, my hair is too long. I’m too fat. Just generally feeling at the end of my rope/alone/isolated. And everyone’s solution is “well just don’t mess up” and it’s so exhausting to always be “on” like I can’t relax

Also wow so many typos don’t post when upset

Thanks for responding to this lol... saving a ton (one of the perks of being rent free). Every time I mention moving out my mom is like “oh but you’re so close to having enough for a down payment. Wouldn’t it be nice to own your own place in the city at 25?”

Does anyone feel like the pandemic just made his/her family super toxic? We’ve been super cautious and really haven’t seen people or gone out and I feel like that’s been veryyy negative for my parents

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