Exit interview today. I experienced subtle sexism and ageism at this job. Do I tell the truth and how do I do it without sounding bitter af?

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Yes. Be honest. they can't get better if you aren't. And anyhow, what do you have to lose

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let ‘em have it

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Sorry that happened to you. HR is not there for employees. They exist to protect the C-suite and shareholders

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This is the correct answer.

I was honest and it was a huge relief. Hr was very kind and seemed to be taking it seriously. I sent some things I had in writing as well.

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Haha I had a dream he was crying and giving a goodbye speech

Unpopular opinion here but my pov is that departing employees have a responsibility to their colleagues to be honest about significant issues. Many on this thread have the pov “they don’t care.” I think that’s hypothesis - and mostly irrelevant. Take a chance that they do care and may act on the insights you share. Lastly, how you share your experience really matters. Keep it professional. Position it like you feel a sense of responsibility to share, and while it’s awkward and harder than not saying anything, you’d rather give them the info as someone who has nothing to gain from being honest.

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They don’t care. Sadly. And there’s a pretty solid chance they know what they are, internally.

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Nope. The only thing honesty will accomplish at this stage is marking you as someone with an ax to grind. It’s not fair but it’s the reality. The best way to pressure them is to make sure their outside reputation is true to the environment they foster. If candidates start asking uncomfortable questions or turning down offers, that’ll get someone’s attention.

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I disagree if you don’t plan on returning to that specific company. I was verbally and emotionally abused on a daily basis at my last job, so it made sense for me to be professionally honest in the exit interview.

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I told my agency why I was leaving bc frankly, they were setting themselves up for a lawsuit. I don't see how that's a bad thing

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I spoke up while at work and I ended up getting fired

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100% give someone the opportunity to improve a culture which will impact others.

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Definitely tell them! They'll probably ask about something you didn't like about working there and you can say that you experienced a few instances where you felt uncomfortable and if they ask you to elaborate, then you can tell them what was said. You don't need to name names if you don't think it will help.

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Would share ONLY if it in some way helps you move on to the next job. Your only responsibility is to YOU.

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Good movie.

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It depends. First off, you won’t feel better letting it out. Best thing to do is try and save others. If everyone is bummed you are leaving, a targeted “ x leader could benefit from more training on sexism/ageism in the workplace” can do wonders. Smart leaders (HR and otherwise) will pick up the hint and it can open up the doors to save the rest of your team/and or get a better, more candid interview that might actually make a difference if they valued your contribution.
Don’t air grievances. Keep it productive for the both of you.

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They won’t care. Save your energy.

An exit interview isn’t the time where things get changed. That time is during your employment.

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I disagree. A company is still obligated to pursue change/innovation despite someone leaving.

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I'm definitely letting it all loose in my exit interview in a couple of weeks

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HR isn’t the employees’ friend, they’ll perhaps share your concerns with management and they’ll all agree that it was a disgruntled, outgoing employee or that your complaints are overblown, or that you’re sensitive. I’d be stunned if anything changed because of it. I’d say nothing and then light them up on Glassdoor and such.

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If you have no plans of going back then tell them. Companies have got to stop getting away with this crap. And legally they can’t use anything you say against you.

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No. You'd probably be right to guess you aren't the first or only one. All that happened because the culture enables the behavior. You think it's gonna change after an exit interview?

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Just srick to the facts and try to stay away from feeling words.

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An exit interview is a legal proceeding. If you tell them this, they will care if it leaves them exposed to a lawsuit. That said, you’d make a bigger impact sending anything heinous out into the web yourself. Now is a golden opportunity to vent.

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Wondering if this is a 38 year old white dude who got fired for mansplaining over 21 year old female creatives

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Skip the exit interview. You don’t owe them anything.

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