Feeling lonely over the holidays. Does anyone have tips or resources for making friends in adulthood?

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It’s hard. Hobbies, sports, alcohol and kids are your best bet. Assuming no kids, so the others (don’t have a kid to make friends, obvious advice I know). Say you like to run. Join a social running group. Put yourself out there and take risks. And just know that millions of us are feeling lonely this time of year. So you’re by no means alone in your loneliness.

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DD1: are you saying that you are trying to get rid of shame and guilt? If you don’t live with guilt wouldn’t you be ok with doing whatever you want to do regardless if it is “right or wrong”?

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Depends on age. It's hard no matter what, and even harder as you move up/age. I say that so you know, it's not just you struggling with this.

I've found that it's easier for extraverts to be intentional and say hey I'm looking for someone to go do x with me on a regular basis. Often finding and building common interests lead to actives and friend networks. In college it was about proximity. In adulthood post college it's about common interests.

For the introvert, find an extrovert to tag onto. Extraverts love tagalongs a lot of the time - makes them feel like the life of the party. I'd suggest doing it again with common interests in mind.

If you're further along in career and age, there is less time for new social networking, but the same approach can be used. Be decisive about who you think you'd genuinely want to spend time with and then who you think has time to spend. At the end of the day, you have to make the ask clear and specific, ideally towards an activity with that common interest.

Best of luck!

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Sports and alcohol

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Develop a hobby

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You mean a Robot?

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Executive mba 🍾🍾🍾🍾🍾

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Start swiping 😏

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Meetup groups in your area!

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If in ATL, happy to meet up/chat OP!
Nobody should be lonely on the holidays :)

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