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I had this, I deadass took a broom and started hitting the ceiling until they got the hint. It worked
You sure? I was thinking to do that, but I don't want my neighbor above stomp harder than before. I'm not sure if my neighbor above is crazy.
I swear my upstairs neighbor is a vampire and legit STOMPS around their apt only between like 1am-3am. I started banging on the walls every time they walked and they seemed to get the hint.
I’d love to say just go up and knock on the door and say “hey, I’m sure you didn’t realize, but it’s super loud when you’re walking around esp at night and a few times now it’s woken me up from a deep sleep, do you think you could try wearing socks/slippers/get a rug/lead with the balls of your feet instead of your heels,” bc that’d be the like normal thing to do. But you have no idea who that person is or how receptive they will or won’t be to that kind of request, and that can legit be dangerous. Esp if you’re a woman living alone (like me).
The only other thing I’d suggest is texting your landlord when it happens (particularly if it’s late night) and telling them hey the person upstairs is stomping around again, could you please ask them to not do that.
I don’t see how it would be terrifying if you go during the day in a moment when you are calmer. I’m a woman and had neighbours knock at my door before, I just open the door with the chain engaged so I can speak with them whilst being protected.
Rugs help. Ask them kindly to get some
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Leave a note before confronting, don’t be too aggressive or offensive with the note because you might eventually need to confront 🤨
I banged on the wall just the other night for loud music the new neighbor was playing. He replied “shut up”. The next day I left a friendly note on his door explaining that the wall we share is paper thin and it sucks for both of us. I gave an example of how thin the wall is by mentioning his earlier conversation regarding credit card payments and his $900 bank balance. 🤣. It’s been quiet since.
I was the loud upstairs neighbor. Except it wasn’t in the middle of the night, it was my kids running during the day. They would bang on the ceiling with the broom and I would stomp my feet harder. Once they came in and kicked my door. I called the police. There is not much you can do but you’ll go a lot farther if your request is reasonable and you’re a nice person. This is apartment living, if you can’t handle it move to the top floor.
PM1 why are you banging your broom at 4pm when I’m vacuuming?!?
we have the same neighbor lol my roommate unfortunately cussed them out. now it’s awkward and they’re still loud lol
mine does 3 am burpies bc she works with asia and is up all night. we’ve laughed about it with her but it’s legitimately pretty annoying
Banging on the wall works for normal people, I think. My next door neighbor is not so it escalated to a shouting match after banging didn't work. Also looped in my super and landlord and they've intervened as well. Hopefully the banging is all you need! Loud neighbors suck.
Tell the landlord. My old landlord would send letters to tenants who other tenants complained were noisy.
Many leases require you to have 80% of the floor covered in carpet or a rug. If your neighbor doesn’t, the landlord might tell them they have to get a rug, and that can be more effective than telling a person to change how they walk.
Just my hot take on this.. but it’s not her fault if the floors are thin, buy her a rug if it’s detrimental but otherwise you gotta find a prewar or something with thicker walls/ floors. Can’t expect people to be quiet and tiptoe in their own homes
There's a rule in New York City buildings that 80% of floors need to be covered by carpeting, contact the management company.
Oh yeah it’s very possible OP doesnt live in a building that has this rule. My co-op doesn’t
Have you tried talking to them?
I’m not super tactful - I’d go up when I knew they were home and tell them that they’re being obnoxiously loud and disrupting your life. Give them a chance to be a better neighbor. Besides that you’re kinda SOL - you could call 311 if it’s really bad - but unless it’s egregious it’s hard to force people to act like decent human beings
Carpet is the solution. Anyone living in an apartment with kids or have no idea how to walk should have carpets.
You don’t know how annoying this can be till this happens to you.
Also, if you choose to speak in person, it helps to do so when you're not angry about it, preferably during the day, not on the same day you've banged. You're more likely to have a civil conversation.
I was the “loud upstair neighbor”. I never stomped, danced, or deliberately made loud noises in my apartment. My neighbor below me thought I was jumping up and down and cursed me out. Mind you, I’m a 110 lb woman. I was shocked. So if you live in an apartment, this is the way it is. Just move.
Absolutely not. I am very mindful of how I walk. I’m a tiny person. You can complain all you want but you’re going to have to learn to deal with it or move
The carpet goes over the floor it's called an area rug. Google it, it's out there. It's basic in every bylaw of every building I've been on boards
Really hope this isn’t me …..