Have you ever had to work with an overbearing boss? If so, how’d you have a conversation with them about taking a step back? My boss has positive intentions but Lordy is he doing way too much too often. It’s a challenge I’ve come to accept but I think it is time to have a chat with him. How would you handle such a situation?

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Way too often, including now. I've never had an open conversation telling them to back off; I usually just pick my battles. If they're recommending something on a project that I don't have strong feelings about, I'll just take the advice and move on. If it's something I know I'm right about, I'll push back and usually get my way because in spite of the micromanaging, there is mutual respect.

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That’s a good way to look at it. I usually don’t push back too much if I don’t care about the work, but if I do, we’re going to have a talk about it.

I had to quit for my own sanity and mental health, what you call overbearing becomes micromanaging and that is the death of productive and high performing employees. Your conversation will probably not change a thing since its just now he is and you’ll either adapt and deal or end up wanting to leave.

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Unfortunately I had to leave in order to fully focus on what’s ahead for me. He won and pushed me out. I tried to look for another job while there but the last 3 months was made a living hell full of micromanaging from my manager that I couldn’t do right by my own team (I was a manager too). It was a hard decision to make but it was either leave or continue to have anxiety just seeing an email coming from him. I’m still looking but have been freelancing and short term contracts have come my way with way less stress while I figure it out. Good luck!

I quit. Like the saying goes. “People don’t quit their jobs, they quit their bosses.”

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If you believe that they have good intentions, then it probably is worth a conversation. Make sure you plan on what you want to get across, but also be open to their point of view as well. As long as you keep it all professional, I think it could actually go a long way here.

Yes and unfortunately even after many conversations nothing changed and I ended up finding a new job. The stress of her constantly being over my shoulder and barking orders at me was just more than I can take. I get my job done and I do it well so there is just no need for all that.

I definitely have to check my overbearing tendencies. I’ve found that after someone has pulled off a couple of projects solo, which they may or may not have filled me in on and done primarily solo… I loosen up and step further back.

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