Hey dads! Starting paternity leave tomorrow. Wife works so it’ll just be me. Any tips for successfully navigating alone??

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I am currently on leave and wife’s at work. Take advantage of the weather and spend outside as much as possible. I take the kid out to park, story time in library, activities like little gym, swimming etc. one activity each day like that. Otherwise I help with breakfast and dinner and wife takes care of lunch. And I read a lot of books… you will be fatigue after a few days/weeks, and you can cry in the shower like me

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Awesome. Appreciate it!!

I remember reading once that a huge factor in a kids development is how many words they hear before a certain age. Basically, the more they get talked to, the more robust their language processing later in life, form stronger bonds, etc.

So, for lack of other things to do, I talked to my daughter all the time. I talked about what was in my mind, things around the house, whatever.

I really loved that, and now as she’s getting to middle school, I love that the role has shifted, now she’s telling me what’s on her mind.

I really think it helped us bond. I think it helps ground the parent too. Cherish the time my friend, challenging though it is!

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Routines. Also I ended up getting a few side gigs to do during nap time to keep myself in touch with adulthood

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Also it’s going to feel mundane and stressful at times but don’t miss a second. It goes by SO fast and they learn something new/huge every day

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A baby can make it a solid 30-45 min in a car seat at the driving range with the right shade, fan, noise machine.

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Don’t be afraid to get out of the house. Small adventures help break up the day and give you both something fun to do, just keep it within the parameters of the routine. For example, there is a free zoo + botanical garden that we would go for a walk between morning and afternoon naps. It does not have to be elaborate. My daughter, who is now almost three, still loves driving through the car wash and so it is a fun adventure every Saturday morning to go to the car wash, liquor store and grocery.

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Don’t get used to relaxing, or it’ll be hard to go back to work. Instead, find a hobby, catch up on anything you’ve missed doing, and work out at least 30 minutes a day.

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New baby’s sleep a lot. You’re going to wonder what to do with all of that extra time you were deck building a spreadsheet analyzing. Find a hobby or a goal to accomplish while on leave that isn’t work focused. Read books, run on the treadmill, build a real deck.

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Also, don’t be afraid to nap when the baby is sleeping in the middle of the day. No reason to be miserable and lack of sleep makes every damn thing worse.

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Wait your wife is having a child and she's still working while you're on paternity leave? Or am I missing something?

Yep exactky

What’s the mom / mother-in-law situation? Help is always nice, especially if it’s routine and scheduled.

Echo routines, I went on a ton of walks just to get out of the house.

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