Hey Everyone! My brother is gay and we belong to an extremely conservative family. Per my parents, he’s at the age of getting married now and they are worried sick of getting him married with a girl. They’ve also been asking me constantly to talk to him if he has a girlfriend or something. How should we handle this situation. I’m clueless of how I could help my brother here and I’d appreciate any help/advice.

What is the appropriate way to sympathize with relatives when their loved ones pass away. I never know what to say on the phone other than ask is everyone ok and I am sorry to hear their loss. Cont...

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

Any Porsche consulting friends out there?

I love my SO. We’ve been together for nearly a decade and are talking marriage. I know being with him though will require living far from my family. I love my family and dread the thought of being far from them. My SO has been transparent about wanting to return to his home country. I don’t want to lose him but I also dread being far from my family. What’s the right call here? Fwiw he’s lived in my home country for about a decade now but has been able to visit his pretty easily (cont)

I spent an hour today sitting with one of my patients getting a chemo infusion. Lonely and weird time to not have his wife in there with him

I miss truly being excited about someone, getting the butterflies and all. Being excited about your day all because you will get to see someone… must be one of the best feelings in the world.

Have you been able to spend more time with your kids during the pandemic? How?

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

Spent the pandemic working on myself, got sober, focused on working out, left the music industry and started a career where I can make money and have a steady work schedule. Maybe this isn’t everyone’s version of “growing up” but that’s what this was for me. Now that I’m vaxed and seeing my friends, it’s clear we have little left in common, and honestly a lot of the things they do straight up embarrasses me. I don’t want to lose these long term friends. Has anyone else been in this situation?

Silly question but, how did you make close friends when you first moved to Miami? Feeling like a fish out of water, from Texas.

I find it disturbing that people all of a sudden think remote work = 1/2 work 1/2 care for children

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

I read a lot of posts here about difficult bosses, difficult clients, difficult partners, terrible briefs and terrible agencies. All that might be true. But it’s getting old. What I’d be interested in hearing about are the stories of how people have overcome the challenges. How did you sell that big idea? How did you fix a relationship? The world is not going to get easier. So maybe we can help each other get better at dealing with it. Who had a win recently? How did you do it?

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

Any tips for hard launching partners on social media? For context, I’ve (Indian American female) been dating my white American boyfriend for 3 years and we just got engaged after two years of convincing my parents. They are very happy and excited now, but I’m scared shitless about being ostracized / judged by my extended family and Indian community in the US once I “let the cat out of the bag” on the engagement news. I want to be proud and confident about this but could use some moral support.

Trying to get a 45 y/o sibling in to consulting (was an entrepreneur prior in the restaurant industry). No college degree but willing to bust his but to learn. Books/online courses recommended pls

Random question but do you let your kids hang out in your bedroom and use your master bath if applicable? My kids always seem to want to use our bathroom instead of theirs and my spouse doesn't care but I grew up with my parent's room basically being off limits and think I'd prefer it that way.

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

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I have a wee crush on one of the partners in my firm and I thought he liked me too, but neither of us did anything about it (which is entirely appropriate). That was all pre-Rona. Now I’m leaving the firm and pursuing another opportunity and staying in the same city. Since he’ll no longer be my boss, is there a way to find out if my feeling was correct? How should I go about this? (Especially given Rona?)

Thoughts on the new Chase Freedom Flex?

Hello fishes, I am not able to understand why D&A competency in TC is doing EPM implementation projects using Oracle. When there is a dedicated competency for Oracle ERP implementation. Anyone having some idea please help understand this.

Today I was thinking about different sales experiences I’ve had–both as the buyer & the salesman. What was the best and/or worst sales experience you’ve ever had as a customer?

What is the range of average salary increase and bonus in EY OTS this year?

Christmas gift ideas for a mentor (female, over 50) within $50? Thanks in advance.

Has anyone ever been in the position where you’re offered a job and it’s great, but it just doesn’t feel like the right time to jump? If they really like you and they’re actively hiring, is it possible to ask to be reconsidered in a year?

A lot of people here seem to glamorize MANGA positions - good pay, and good WLB. There has to be a catch, right?

What is the opinion about Scaler Academy for 8+ years professional ?
Is it worth the money and hype ?

Anyone from Amazon or Google with a non-tech background? Looking to learn for post MBA opportunities in Toronto.

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What are my exit opportunities as a tax senior in partnership tax? I cant take it anymore, I need to leave after this busy season. S2.

Honestly how long have you been seeking a new job and to what extent are you searching... someone give me some hope

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

Ryan Murphy is the new Aaron Spelling. Big rich producer making money off of cheesy shlock. I guess you can’t take the Indiana out of the boy. Heart’s in the right place though. Bless his heart.

I’m worried that my voice, communication style, and body language comes across as too effeminate for our straight clients and peers. I’m transitioning to sales now and am insecure that my personality and appearance may hinder sales gen? Client industry is very old school. Can LGBT partners//Ds/MDs chime in how they managed the same transition?

Met a great woman this weekend. We are going on a date at the end of the month. Both have crazy schedules end of this month and next . I can’t stop thinking about her :) happy pride 🏳️‍🌈 ❤️

Single 24 year old here. Recently joined Hinge. I am barely getting any activity. I'm a former OKCupid user and I always got something there. Do people not use Hinge or is there something wrong with me? I'm a fit average height guy and I am not ugly. Looking for LTR especially now in the time of Corona. Didn't bother with human interaction before tbh but this loneliness is creeping up. 😔

Hey. Is anyone here from Capgemini? Looking forward to interact.

One year in NYC—24, enjoyed myself, but no deep connections with new friends/partners. Came to hopefully open the door on a variety of opportunities, but something tells me that spending another year here will not help that. Money flies, space is cramped, not thrilled with my office, hate winter. I miss LA a lot—I miss driving, the weather, the space, people...but everyone tells me I have to give NYC at least 2 years. Thoughts?

I feel like I’ve lost myself since joining McK. My whole world has become about work. I love my job but I’m not the same person I started and I feel I don’t connect with my friends and family the way I use to. I’m not sure if I’ve grown, or lost a part of myself. Is this growing up or do I need to make a career change?

Anyone know a way to get a cheap flight this coming festive period?

I met someone in the new city I moved to but they work for Fox News. They are a good person but I can’t get over their employer and they said I was immature for that. Are all companies under the wrath of capitalism so I should overlook that? Or has Fox brought too much hate to the gay community to even consider a relationship while he works for them. Thoughts?

Anyone at the Q center today/this week?

Any bi males here who have struggled with “being taken seriously” by both the hetero & LGBTQ+ community? In the process of interviewing for a new company and feeling the familiar anxiety around coming out at work creeping up.

Any Deloitte folks going to DU this week?

I went to a masseur in LV last week and this massage turned sensual. He texts me today saying he’s HIV + undetectable and he tested positive for gonorrhea yesterday. This was my first such massage experience and I feel my world has fallen apart. Our genitals touched and kisses. I did my tests this morning and waiting for results. 😌😌 why didn’t he share this before booking an appt! 😭

Almost midnight here and I'm cleaning my medicine cabinet so I can reboot having a regular skin-care routine. I'm listening to one of my favorite musicals, "Ragtime", specifically the song "He Wanted to Say". Living 9 time zones away from home out of the US and watching the BLM movement there, unable to do anything concrete about it from here - this song I've listened to countless times, today about brought me to tears.

I really don’t mean this to virtue signal - just wanted to share a moment.

Do you all still go to Barry’s boot camp? I am dying for an actual workout but don’t want to be one of those vanity gays going out in a pandemic.

Blow me one last kiss 😘

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