Hey Fishes… I am married since 7 years and blessed with triplets 4 years back. Haven’t been intimate with my wife as we both are too much occupied with professional life, kids and house chores. We also dont live in India. We both want to but it just doesn’t work out. We are in mid 30s.
Recently I had an office party and there’s a female colleague of mine with whom I share a good bond like a friend. She’s a widow with 1 kid as she lost her husband and 1st kid to an accident 2yrs back.

Had an FET transfer and just got the news that the pregnancy test is negative. Feeling very defeated about it. All my labs are good (AMH 3.1) and the embryos were PGA tested. Have only two left now, and this was the best quality one. The irony is I did feel pregnant couple days after transfer but then I stopped feeling pregnant. I read that some women don’t really “feel” pregnant until 6-7 weeks… but i did “feel” then stopped. It just sucks. If you have any advice for coping, I’d appreciate it.

My MD won't stop saying "penetrate" in our meeting. Apparently I still have the humor of a 10-year-old

Performance review is this week & boss already primed me (trice) abt a time mgmt/prioritization improve plan. I can’t begin to express (but attempt to in comment👇) how wildly out of context this fbk comes considering this flaming 💩 dumpster 🔥 of a workplace situation. Advice: - How do I get through BS mtg w/out hitting mgr w/a R/antiwork-style ✌🏻🖕🏻”bye Felicia”?! Ps. I’m an f’ing adult & welcome fdbk when it’s even mildly in touch w reality.

I’m in the middle of moving by myself. I’m job hunting, because I lost my last one. My relationship has basically imploded. I sleep a lot on a fucked up schedule because I’m depressed but I can’t afford help, and I only get it when insomnia gives me a break. I’m so done and over all of this. I have so many heavy regrets. Idk how to carry all of this.

Moving to Charlotte with 3 year old near Palisades area. Please suggest good preschool. Is it too late for enrollment this year, waiting for house closing to provide local address to schools.

What are your thoughts about wearing chinos to work?

Has anyone used Productboard with Jira? I’m specifically looking to understand how you manage epics within the Jira backlog. Currently our backlog contains the child issues for each epic

What’s your FIRE target age (where you no longer maintain a salary job)?

Pregnant wife is having small portion meals lately, so i asked why she is eating less than usual. She read somewhere that eating too much can lead to oversized baby, making the delivery more painful, so it looks like she may be controlling the portion because of this. Is not eating enough a cause for concern?

How do I deal with a parent who has become bitter and shrewd as they age? It’s exhausting and disheartening to be around because they used to be positive and happy. I’d like to help them be positive again but also want to give them space to feel how they feel. I just want them old version of my parent back 😞

Whats something that you did as a child through teenage years that you now don't do as an adult?

Example- I used to crumple, but now I fold

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

My brother is going through some really intense chemo so him and his wife are often recovering at their house for a week without going out.

Since they can’t take any visitors I would love to send them some sort of at home activity kit (wine tasting or anything!) to keep them busy during these lockdown weeks.

Please share any suggestions you have below! No limits in terms of activity or budget. I have about 8-9 weeks that I plans to cover.

Thank you!

I feel like I lost most of my friends over the last couple of years. Everyone’s doing their own thing and now I see my closest friends a handful of times each year. Can anyone else relate?

Any suggestions for getting kids to do homework? Sped Math 6th grade high need area - I cannot get these kids to turn in hw. Anyone agree with the idea of allowing class time for HW? I am at a loss

Hi Chicago - just moved here from the UK (via 7 years in Germany) and looking to make some great new friends.

Moved to River North and into trivia nights, most sports, movies etc and would love to find some people open to adding a city newbie to the group!

42m if that matters 🤷🏻‍♂️😁

Men, what brand/style do you wear for a light jacket? The type you might want to wear if it's high 40s/low 50s in the morning and you're going to the office

Whoever said bumble bbfs was great couldn’t have been more right. It’s weird I’ve l been confident in how I look in the last few years but my personality and likability was put into question but instantly I seem to be receiving the friendship attention I like, 50+ likes by 4am on the first day, signed up at 2am. It’s kind of nice to make brand new friends without having a connection or a class together. Old friends and friends or friends sometimes benchmark you and don’t view the new you

How long should I be on H1b b4 my potential new employer can initiate my transfer?(on opt now).H1 activates on Oct 1st right?Shd I work with current emp for x days before new emp can request transfer?

What platforms do folks use for vault / element management these days? I need to build a new library. Is it still klugey FileMaker databases?

Is there an appropriate way to turn down an assignment because it is non-billable? Two of the partners I work for keep asking me to write client bulletins and articles with them, which is great, but now I’m starting to worry about meeting my billable hours requirement.

Best ways of finding good swipe:

If you are interested in earning extra income, please let me know. I do financial services, great opportunity! Dm me!

How do I get access to the main Strategy& bowl?

Manager at Cap Invent (Consulting). Deloitte Consulting offering same grade with 13% increase in base salary with TC (bonus incl.) getting to around 95k.

Thoughts?

When is external hire IBD recruiting season?

What policy changes are expected post LTI - Mindtree merger?

Has anyone seen any unique places to find UX portfolios or post jobs other than the usual suspects?
Some UX Slack channels were doing well for a while but I definitely don’t see as much traction there. Meetups obviously came and went. Even the portfolio sites like Dribbble and Behance don’t seem that same.

I overslept and just woke up 🥲 oops

Just converted all my BCH to ETH yesterday. FML!!

Trying to set up my home gym and can’t find a TSC to pick up stall mats. What are some alternatives? I plan to only putting the weights down hard while deadlifting

Any data engineer opening in Pune? Can join immediately.

Can someone please refer me to the Integration and Separation team in Accenture please

Who’s on their way to FAT FIRE?

Hi can anyone share about job security in Autodesk??