I’m shooting 3 talks tomorrow, none of the talks have been written. I can’t stop thinking about him.

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This is going to sound tough but he is not paying your bills! You are! And you are independent and have a great job without him so you have to keep that going.

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One time I told my therapist that I was leading a meeting after our session and I was scared I wouldn’t be able to concentrate and end up crying in front of everyone. She told me to tell myself that he didn’t deserve to occupy my thoughts during that meeting. It really helped me to think that way. Hope it helps you in some way.

I know it is hArd but remember! Dont let him further damage you and your life. Dont let him do that! Be kind to yourself, be good to yourself by doing things that will help you in the future. Remember your future self will thank you for putting in time and effort in your work work and career and success rather than giving the person who already hurt you your attention and energy

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