How are all the lovely ladies doing today?! It's one of those days for me... Trying very hard with every breath to not check his profile and see what he's up to...
He broke up with me almost 2 months ago and it's just been death.
Some days very good and busy and powering through. Other days are hell. Pure hell

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Wow I’m so sorry to hear you both going through this. My bf broke up with me a week and a half ago, but we still have to live together due to a lease. Part of me was so devastated the first week, and now I feel okay, but not sure if it’s because he’s still here. I’m worried about this weekend though. I really want to get out of here but he isn’t letting me unless I still pay my share. He’s being incredibly selfish and unreasonable. Part of me is helping me see his true colors but at the same time I love him so it’s so hard.

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Stay strong, sister. I say that but ready to break down any second myself.
For me, it was just one angry phone call cos his ex showed him something fake and malicious. And then it was ghosting for a week. Then it was one text that "I need to focus on myself" and poof.
This after a 1 year relationship while we discussed marriage and house and kids and dog. Life really is SO unpredictable

So sorry to hear SC. :( sending you hugs ! We will get through this.

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