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Try to realize people say mean and untrue things sometimes when they are angry. When there is a breakup, people can go scorched earth as well. Also, maybe not to try to find a reason for everything. It could be as simple as she said mean and untrue things to hurt you while angry and now you are no longer together. So, it's time to move on and find someone who will treat you better. Know your worth, you don't deserve that.
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Depends on what she said and why she said it. If she called you a loser because she didn’t get what she want or something like that, brush it off and know that it’s her loss. On the other hand, if she called you a cheater after you cheated on her, that warrants some self reflection.
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Did something happen that would make her dislike them?
Sounds like her love language was gifts and acts of surprises. She told you that throughout your time together and you didn’t give her what she needed to feel loved. What did she do to make you feel cared for or that you enjoyed? When things were good did you feel cared for by her?
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Let go of the anger since what they said doesn’t matter anymore. Work on not letting things get to you and eventually you will stop caring about the trivial things
Start afresh and look to the future , let anger/hate/failed relationships live in the past
One day at a time. Focus on yourself and the other important relationships. Forgive so you can heal sooner abs move on. I prayed for myself and the ex. Took it one day at a time and rebuilt the relationship I had with myself. I’m close with my family so that helped. Every time I thought about what he said, I repeated something positive. Self hugs came in handy too. Hang in there, OP!
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I am sorry to read this. In my experience, when my exes have said mean things to me I think about how they aren’t better than me regardless of what they say. Additionally though, I have reflected on the facts of what they have said and sorted through the things I do need to change. I am not egotistical enough to believe I am without blame but I kick the disrespect to the curb.
As of over a year ago, I have walked away from a 17 marriage where I was treated with tremendous amount of disrespect. I don’t see it as it was 17 years down the drain. I see at is was 17 years of learning how to be a better lover (and person in general). Learning how to set boundaries and what I can and can’t tolerate from my SO. Learning to be more independent among many other things.
There is a lesson to every event that happens in our life, whether good or bad. From the sounds of it, your GF did you a favor allowing the chance to understand what you are willing to tolerate in a relationship. I wish you the best.
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OP, yes you need to first understand your worth. You shouldn’t do so much for anyone (including people other than an SO) without it being reciprocated. Now you know though. I understand being blinded by love but learn to recognize when the relationship is unbalanced. Use this past one as a reference. I will also say do NOT become jaded. Everyone woman is not your ex. Treat them all as individuals or you will become bitter and it will hinder your growth.
My ex and I have had many many many ups and downs (mostly downs). Our breakup was a long time coming. We were never right for each other and even after telling her several times I was beginning to fade out of love she still made it all about me fixing it and her waiting for me to do it. After building up so much resentment for being in a one side relationship I finally asked her several times to do consoling. She said no every time and I just stopped asking and my resentment turned into apathy and then I woke up one day and realized I wasn’t in love with her anymore and I didn’t have to put up with her crap anymore. I think she saw it coming because she was angry more than anything else.
It sounds to me that you had a one sided relationship so it’s a good thing you are out of it. I know it’s hard to see that now but you will get there eventually. And now you know the signs but I will reiterate again, not every woman is your ex. Please, drill that into your skull. It will save you many years of heartache as well as potentially hurting other partners with your past pain.
Girls can be so mean! Understand that those things about you are from her unfair perspective and meant to hurt you so it’s very likely that they’re wrong! Good luck healing ❤️🩹
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Start having sex with other women, you'll forget real quick, best way to move on.
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How was the relationship for you, and why did it end?
Would you rather she end it in person as opposed to FaceTime??
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I would expect in person as a courtesy. She and I were very close, pretty much inseparable. We spent 2.5 years together, which is kinda long term in my opinion given that I’m almost 30 and we were looking for marriage. But unfortunately things took a turn over the last few months of dating. Better ending it now than getting divorced later I suppose…