How do you handle working for someone who has no respect for work-life balance? One of the partners is constantly sending us emails, and expecting answers, outside of office hours. It's draining me and I don't know how to handle it.

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It’s really hard when your boss doesn’t also have an appreciation for WLB. My only advice, when I was in this situation: If it’s after 6pm, I won’t reply until the AM. You just have to do it if it’s not something completely urgent.

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Where do y’all work where this is possible? I can’t imagine ignoring emails after 6. Maybe after 9.

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What are “office hours”? Are you at a small firm? I get emails all hours of the night and typically work late most nights.

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I set boundaries. I’m good, productive, helpful and efficient when present. There have been a few times that someone gave me attitude for not being available after hours, but I went and interviewed a couple other places, showed the firm the offers, and said “I’d like to stay here but my relationship with work has to be healthy for me for me to be productive. Talk to me like that again and I’m out.” 😌 I still get calls and emails on weekends but if I don’t respond everyone manages to survive and shut up about it afterwards lol

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If it's not urgent, I wait and respond on the next work day. If it's friday, after hours, or on the weekend, I respond on monday.

Of course, this only works if your partner doesn't push back against this response. If they start to demand immediate responses, look elsewhere. I ultimately left my firm because of this. A partner would always email and call me in the middle of trial, like wtf, it can wait.

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This is a balancing act your whole career. It could be this person needs to chill. But sometimes there are reasons for people asking for things at weird hours, like knowing the client has another firm working on a litigation in parallel, and knowing they are fairly or unfairly judging the two firms on the “timeliness” of their communications. Not enough info here to say if it’s worth trying to push back on boundaries.

If it is, I’ve found even people who don’t shut off understand not everyone is that way. A very quick “acknowledged, will have answer tomorrow morning” can go a long way. It lets them know you saw it so they can stop thinking about it, and gives them a chance to respond if it’s urgent for some reason. Better than just ignoring.

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If the emails or assignments aren't actually urgent, I usually just either wait until the next morning (or Monday, if it's a weekend) to respond or I send off a quick "will do!"

If I get an email late night or on a weekend day i usually respond with something along the lines of “okay, I’ll add this to my task list, what date would you like a draft done?” That way the partners know I’ve seen the email and it gives them a chance to tell me how much of a priority it is (ex: is it something that I have to do ASAP or can it wait until Monday)

This seems to be the normal practice at my firm - not sure if it works everywhere but it works for me!

I like to confirm receipt and lay out an expected response time. If it comes in during sleeping hours, I would hope they would call me for something urgent…

I just do it most of th time and then try to get busy with other people

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