How long after getting engaged did you end up getting married?

Looking for a good daycare or nanny in Cambridge. About a year out but everywhere seems to have waitlists. Any guidance here?

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

Married white female / 35 / got that covid 19 (extra pounds😅) seeking a human being in these trying times for taking out trash and doing the chores i don’t feel like. would consider a fake marriage for citizenship purposes assuming you are a practicing lawyer

Completely off topic
I don't have any friends.. sometimes i feel very lonely.. i don't have anyone to share my thoughts or feeling.. there is this void.. trying to pickup things to distract myself but it's not helping much... Seeking your inputs!! Sorry for this off topic question.

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

My mental health has taken a nose dive. I’m considering breaking up with my fiancee so she doesn’t have to go through the hassle of dealing with me anymore.

Got offered a great position across the country. My girlfriend just got accepted into med school so she is pretty much tied down here. Job or relationship?

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

I have a very poor relationship with my parents, we don’t speak. My wife and I want to change our name to have no connection with them. Has anyone done so? What’s the process/ how much of a pain is it?

I love my SO. We’ve been together for nearly a decade and are talking marriage. I know being with him though will require living far from my family. I love my family and dread the thought of being far from them. My SO has been transparent about wanting to return to his home country. I don’t want to lose him but I also dread being far from my family. What’s the right call here? Fwiw he’s lived in my home country for about a decade now but has been able to visit his pretty easily (cont)

Let’s also celebrate the moms who have changed our lives and are now resting in peace. What traits have you inherited from your mom?

How many of you feel it’s important to marry a Brahmin?

My SO will put me on the spot sometimes (he is an extrovert) and say just talk to me (it will just be us two). He generally talks a lot and me so much. The second he says that my mind goes blank and for the life of me I can't remember anything to talk about. It's like stage fright. Is this normal? Anyone else experience this?

How do I deal with minimal support from our principal when it comes to dealing with parents?

Anyone stuck in an unhappy marriage? How do you deal with loneliness of this profession and complicated family life

We recently sleep trained our 7 month son. He went from waking up multiple times during night and taking only 30 minute naps 3 times during day (most cases nursed to sleep or rocked to sleep or took a drive) to sleeping 12 hours at night without interruption and two 2 hour naps and one 45 minutes nap during day. We both love that he is getting enough sleep and well rested on one hand. On the other hand, we are now wondering if he is sleeping way too much.. contd…

I just started a new job and am about to be 36. I want to start a family but I feel like I should be waiting due to this new job. However I don’t want to miss out. I’m thinking about freezing my eggs

Hi , need likes for DM Feature , Thank you.

I want to get out of sales into a new career path. Suggestions on what paths will look for my skill set?

Any info on the agency Heartbeat in NY?

Any body got retention offer from LTI?

I need some advice my friends. I interviewed last year for M1 at a big four but ended up coming in as S3 with the expectation to be promoted to M1 within 6-12 months per the interview. Now they are saying target promotion is now end of 2022 (would make it 18 months). Are they just dragging me along since we are short seniors? I’ve now been in public for 6 years now. I was in the “met expectations” group for performance. Is it time for me to go into private? Will my raise be anything exciting?

Happy week of Christmas! How are we doing with last minute shopping?! I haven’t started 🤔

For Startup up exit opportunities- how do you get comfortable with that risk level man?

36mm Rolex explorer on a 7.5 inch wrist? Thoughts?

Quick question

Deloitte @16 LPA or MasterCard @15 LPA (SDE1)?

Who do we think Charlie Scharf will let go of next? 🤔🤔🤔

We are up to a massive 22 members! I know there are more Wagon Wheel Fish out there. Reel them in all!

We grew by 2 fish this last week! Way to go!

Anyone else on the RSR call today?!

Quick Tip: Use smart art to quickly frame up a slide and then convert it into shapes. Saves a lot of time.

Which field of science do you think is underfunded, and why?

Should I start Landry, ARob, or Anthony Miller this week in one of my WR spots?

Any champion ?

Working on the tech side of the bank, looking to transition into finance (not IB) & came across the IBI course that helps gain skills like modeling etc. Anyone taken the course/know someone who did?

For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

What do you think about lab-grown diamonds? My fiance and I are trying to be as ethical as possible, and lab-grown sounds like an awesome idea, but we're wondering about the quality and longevity. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

Curious to hear everyone's "expectations" versus "reality" for their wedding day?
There's such an expectation around one's wedding day but not much discussion around how it's different from it

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

I don't wear a lot of makeup - how far in advance from the ceremony should I be getting it done? Is having it all done 2 hrs before the ceremony too late or too early? I'm not getting pictures done until ceremony and after. Thanks!

Anybody not excited about the wedding? I want to get married to my fiancé but I can’t get excited to pay so much for one day…. I feel bad that I’m not more excited but it’s just so stressful

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

Does anyone feel guilty about spending so much money on their wedding day?

On one hand I know it will be such a special day with all our family and friends. On top of that I feel like we hired incredibly talented people that will make the day awesome.
On the other hand, I feel like the costs keep adding up and while the our day is not putting us in debt I can’t help but feel a little guilt….

Getting married in September, have a vax only policy for guests. My fiancé’s sister is bringing her unvaccinated spouse to the hotel where all the wedding festivities are being held b/c she is too scared to fly on an airplane without him. I find this incredibly uncomfortable and selfish given it will put me and my fiancé in an uncomfortable position (and it will also put my elderly parents and other vulnerable fam members at risk). Any ideas as to what (if anything) to do?

Any recommendations for good videographers in NYC/Tri-State? A lot of the affordable ones I find make the cheesiest videos. I’ve certainly found some good ones but very expensive. I know you get what you pay for, but there has to be someone reasonably priced out there that delivers quality work. I am splurging on the photographer so this would just be an extra.

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

How much did everyone spend on their wedding planner? We’re planning a Fall wedding in Europe with ~80 people and want a full service planner, have been quoted 9-15K and want to see if this is reasonable! TIA

Anyone do their own bridal makeup? Any advice or thoughts?

Hi everyone - We are thinking of changing our wedding photographer after unsatisfactory engagement photos and unsatisfactory communication (unresponsive after multiple attempts). We paid a $450 retainer which we know will be not refundable. However, we are not sure about other liability as we read our contract and found these 2 clauses (in comments). Please advise! Definitely not happy with her and would like to switch to another one but also want to make sure we make the right move. Thanks!

I thought I set some boundaries with my wedding since my fiancé and I are paying for everything. Now I’m getting more comments about why we didn’t invite some long lost cousin or family member… I don’t want to go bridezilla on people but I’m starting to see how it can happen 😂

Have you talked about your wedding with coworkers? I made the mistake of saying I had to leave work a little early one day because I was going to do a tasting at my venue. That starts a debate on why one shouldn’t get married, how much wedding costs & what a waste it is, dresses are stupid because you only wear them once, etc. I haven’t talked about my wedding much, but I didn’t appreciate this. I ignored the negative comments and we moved the conversation along. Not talking about that anymore!

For those who had Catholic ceremonies.. What kind of shoes did you wear that had bottom soles that looked nice in pics? In other words, shoes with bottoms that don’t look scratched up when you are kneeling at the altar.

Anyone else’s mom driving them crazy about mother of the bride dresses? Wedding is a little over a year out 😂 Any store recommendations for MOB dresses?