How long was your oldest relationship and why did it end? Was it an abrupt stop or did the sense of doom grow over time?

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5 years and it started to end 3 years in. Should’ve ended it before but I was a pu🐈y and was worried I’d never find another bf as handsome. 2 years of being unhappy to realize I was being manipulated and also that I’m happier walking alone than walking alongside a fool who doesn’t treat me how I deserve.

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I could have written this exactly.

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4 months with 3 years of 'catching up' now and then. Echo the same stuff everyone else has listed above. I couldn't believe someone as good looking as him could be into me - I'm heavy and never thought anybody could be attracted to me. He was the 'jock', I was the 'nerd'. I craved the affection and sense of being wanted. It was intense at the start and I think he enjoyed the chase. Once I was head over heels in love, he started to pull away.

The last straw was finding him on Grindr when we'd agreed to be exclusive. He was distant and I was suspicious, so I checked.

It's been years and I haven't managed to find anyone else. I still think about him often, but we aren't in touch anymore. I don't know if I regret what happened - but I'm grateful that even if for a moment, I got to live my fantasy of being loved / wanted, and having someone to call my own.

Oh well. We keep marching on!

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Ah, I apologize for that. For what it's worth, I think a lot of us live through some version of this story.

I'm happy where I am professionally, and that is in part because I was always trying to overachieve to feel better about myself. The 'best little boy in the world' syndrome, I think they call it.

The personal life bit is trickier to figure out. I've made my peace with potentially dying alone. But I'll give it my best shot. Moving to a new country for the first time next year. Never been on my own. It's scary as can be, but YOLO.

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13 years… knew the end was close in the last years, but it was and it is still being a difficult moment in my life to adjust. After that much time, our lives were so intertwined that it is very hard to fill the void.

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About 8 years. Ended because he had a VERY premature midlife crisis and blamed his unhappiness on me and mentally checked out months before we officially pulled the plug. Took me completely by surprise to be honest but I don’t think it’s something he saw coming either. It’s been a couple of years and I’m not sure I’m ever truly know or understand what happened but it’s all good - can’t force these things, have to go with the flow.

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5 years. It ended because I was tired of putting up with the need to have sex like 5 times a day.

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Neither of us was a bottom.

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0 days bc I think I’m too chubby for anyone 😩

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Same!

3.5 years. Should have ended like a month into it, but we were in love (had been friends for years before but started dating when we realized we were in love, major red flags started at a month in) and a toxic mess. He was lying to me the whole time, and I kind of knew but ignored it until I couldn’t and we were living together so we immediately separated but kept trying to make it work for a few months after that.

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The breakup was one of the best things to happen to me actually. I gained a better sense of my self worth, I made a whole new friend group and felt like I got a restart on life. I ended up dating an amazing man shortly after who helped me see that I deserved so much better. We only dated for 13 months before realizing we wanted different things in life, but it was a beautiful relationship that I’m so grateful for.

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9 years, still going

gay erasure!!!! haha nah sorry for answering anyways

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