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5 years and it started to end 3 years in. Should’ve ended it before but I was a pu🐈y and was worried I’d never find another bf as handsome. 2 years of being unhappy to realize I was being manipulated and also that I’m happier walking alone than walking alongside a fool who doesn’t treat me how I deserve.
I could have written this exactly.
4 months with 3 years of 'catching up' now and then. Echo the same stuff everyone else has listed above. I couldn't believe someone as good looking as him could be into me - I'm heavy and never thought anybody could be attracted to me. He was the 'jock', I was the 'nerd'. I craved the affection and sense of being wanted. It was intense at the start and I think he enjoyed the chase. Once I was head over heels in love, he started to pull away.
The last straw was finding him on Grindr when we'd agreed to be exclusive. He was distant and I was suspicious, so I checked.
It's been years and I haven't managed to find anyone else. I still think about him often, but we aren't in touch anymore. I don't know if I regret what happened - but I'm grateful that even if for a moment, I got to live my fantasy of being loved / wanted, and having someone to call my own.
Oh well. We keep marching on!
Ah, I apologize for that. For what it's worth, I think a lot of us live through some version of this story.
I'm happy where I am professionally, and that is in part because I was always trying to overachieve to feel better about myself. The 'best little boy in the world' syndrome, I think they call it.
The personal life bit is trickier to figure out. I've made my peace with potentially dying alone. But I'll give it my best shot. Moving to a new country for the first time next year. Never been on my own. It's scary as can be, but YOLO.
13 years… knew the end was close in the last years, but it was and it is still being a difficult moment in my life to adjust. After that much time, our lives were so intertwined that it is very hard to fill the void.
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About 8 years. Ended because he had a VERY premature midlife crisis and blamed his unhappiness on me and mentally checked out months before we officially pulled the plug. Took me completely by surprise to be honest but I don’t think it’s something he saw coming either. It’s been a couple of years and I’m not sure I’m ever truly know or understand what happened but it’s all good - can’t force these things, have to go with the flow.
5 years. It ended because I was tired of putting up with the need to have sex like 5 times a day.
Neither of us was a bottom.
0 days bc I think I’m too chubby for anyone 😩
Same!
3.5 years. Should have ended like a month into it, but we were in love (had been friends for years before but started dating when we realized we were in love, major red flags started at a month in) and a toxic mess. He was lying to me the whole time, and I kind of knew but ignored it until I couldn’t and we were living together so we immediately separated but kept trying to make it work for a few months after that.
The breakup was one of the best things to happen to me actually. I gained a better sense of my self worth, I made a whole new friend group and felt like I got a restart on life. I ended up dating an amazing man shortly after who helped me see that I deserved so much better. We only dated for 13 months before realizing we wanted different things in life, but it was a beautiful relationship that I’m so grateful for.
9 years, still going
gay erasure!!!! haha nah sorry for answering anyways