I am shaping up to be a giant failure and may have to move in with my parents around 30 after 2 unsuccessful jobs, I know it's up to me to change my life has anybody else turned things around after this?

Really trying not to spiral, and my practice group leader has been openly hostile to and dismissive of me lately. I haven’t mentioned my depression/anxiety to him because we’re not exactly getting along swimmingly, but I don’t know who else to talk to about my MH. Fighting with my wife hasn’t helped either. Really not sure how to handle it aside from counseling but that isn’t getting me anywhere fast. Thoughts?

So uhhh anyone need a house sitter the week before memorials day weekend? Wanted to visit the city and go to the office a few days but my friend who I usually crash with is out of town

Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

Colleagues, if any of you are interested in helping severely disabled combat veterans get homes adapted for their disabilities, let me know. My wife recently started working for former NFL linebacker Jared Allen and his foundation. We're trying to figure out how to leverage the power of the big consulting firms to help our brothers and sisters in need.

How do people decide or take this big decision of spending the rest of life with someone by just meeting them few times in arrange marriage setup. Where parents are involved and which makes things so complicated as more people of other generation have different thinking and mindset. People spend years in relationship the. Breakup then get over it and then again go in another relationship for years and finally marry someone who they barely know. (Cont. In comment)

How do you teach kids high-frequency words/fluency in addition to flashcards?

I’m Elizabeth and I’m in Las Vegas. I’ve been teaching ECSE for 14 years and it’s my 18th year teaching (i taught resource for 4 years). I love my littles! Who has taught the toddler crowd?

I am getting ready to send my 2 year old toddler to a toddler program next week for the first time. Have to fill out a form “bathroom waiver”, which is basically allowing teachers at the school to clean my child after a potty, including genital area. I feel uneasy about this but I know I have to let them… I assume all parents have signed such waiver?

Is Argyle, TX good place to buy home and raise family?

Serious question: if you are interested in someone but they want to wait till marriage before you know... Would you end it or wait with them?

My family cat that I grew up with got put down yesterday and I have sobbing in between meetings. None of my friends are pet people so they don’t get the sadness. Just saying it somewhere to feel better.

Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

Do you think it is easier to overcome cheating in a relationship that has or does not have children involved? Listening to an interesting podcast and would love to know peoples take on the topic

Any NYC 🐡 that would let me borrow their doggo for walks?! I am so missing my old guy, but can’t adopt a new one due to work ☹️

To all the divorced folks out there...

1) What went wrong in your relationship?
2) What's one piece of advice you'd give to us singletons before jumping into a long term relationship/marriage?

I like to learn from other people's mistakes 😅

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

Does anyone know the salary/TC ranges for data scientists at C3.ai? I have an offer likely coming in this week for a senior data scientist in Washington DC and was curious about what to expect at this stage. Thanks in advance for the help!

Will move in September to London
How acceptable is 60k comp given rise in COL?
Any tips for housing areas/process etc

Could anyone shed some light on the working environment at Arnold & Porter? I've been offered a role as a trainee lawyer but wanted to know if its a safe environment in the sense that I could ask for support if I ever needed it.

Many thanks in advance!

How does one get into trading from positions elsewhere in the bank? What would impress you most about candidates attempting to do so?

How do I invest in Secure Gold Bonds? Any reliable procedural steps or blogs or videos available?

I am looking for remote opportunity in Canada as I am planning to relocate to Canada. I have PR so do not require any work Authorization.

I am currently working as solution architect for Novartis.

I think everyone on this forum would be really fun to work with compared to the corporate zombies I often interact with. Have you identified other FIRE peers at work? If so, how did you find out and what did you think of them?

Anyone volunteering with the upcoming CFE exam this week?

I'm having a hard time getting my team to accept that I'm the boss. They keep trying to tell me what to do, and it's really starting to get on my nerves.

What's a guilty pleasure you indulge in at work?

Okay, so I have pretty bad cystic acne, clogged pores and enlarged pores. I’ve been using curology and a mild dermatologist recommended soap. I have seen some improvement, however I was curious if anyone was struggling with it and has tried the “Flo Vitamin gummy’s “ on top of my fertility struggle this really has kinda killed my confidence. I know it’s not specifically fertility related but Was hoping to get some feedback on similar situations

Hi Team,

Need one suggestion, I have two below offers:
1. Hitachi Vantara (37LPA including 8%variable + 2.5L joining bonus)
2. Hashedin by deloite (37LPA) but it's around 36km for from my room.

Please suggest who one can I joined W. R. T. Work life balance.

Eoy:8 years
Designation : Technical lead.

Looking to gauge if my current salary is competitive with the current market. I am a senior associate on the fund accounting team and make about $110k after bonus. Any thoughts?

How do you approach annual salary increase conversations with managers? How do you decide what is a reasonable figure to ask for? Looking for broad responses based on your experience in these conversations. Base is about 90k now (1 year of experience).

Love when the announcers say things like “3 of the top 10 have fallen” so dramatic and so spot on.

A sleepy summer Sunday watching the end of a great test cricket match, grabbing a beer with friends and glorious weather. Honestly it is the first day since covid that life feels normal for me

Can I export a list with all emails I sent for the month? I would like to use it to compare to my billed time to make sure I don’t miss anything. Usually I go through my sent inbox but it has so much extra info so it’s not a quick scan. Plus outlook does weird things sometimes like combines conversations so I only see most recent sent item in that convo. Alternatively, do you have a good way confirming you caught all of your email time?

I need to perform well after months of bad performance for 6 months to not get fired I'm scared but want to do it impossible?

Not sure if this has been asked before but what are your billable expectations, what year are you, and what size firm are you at?

I have been lurking on fishbowl for a bit and it seems that my billable expectations at my small firm are too high (1850). I don’t hit them but neither does anyone else including senior associates / partners. Anyways, my boss is using that as an excuse to not give me a raise - so any insight you could provide would be helpful!

Any recommendations on relocating to Hawaii? I am registered for the Hawaii bar but currently based out of Los Angeles and practicing in California as a licensed attorney.

Tips for becoming more independent as you progress from junior to midlevel? I am starting to be put into the position of just having to handle things including drafting and could use some advice from others.

Partner keeps telling me (2nd year) that I need to get better at using staff like paralegals to reduce client costs.....but doesn't realize that the only paralegal allocated to my group has been with the firm for 30 years and bills 1.5x higher than me.

Anyone work for a private firm but also work as appearance counsel for Docketly? Looking to use Docketly as a tool for marketing, growing my own book of business, and increase hours but not sure how to navigate the logistics of it. For example, conflicts, payment, etc. Any insight would be greatly appreciated!

When will I find my passion? I’m a criminal prosecutor chasing PSLF (5 years left). I am just not that into it. My wife is a teacher and loves her job so much she could work 16 hour days. I am jealous. My passion is my family and my job is just a paycheck. How can I figure out what I really want to do? Do I want to get that obsessed with work? Help!

I hate going home for Thanksgiving because I always feel like I haven't succeeded enough yet and my family has seen me fail a lot

Any tips on leaving a firm “correctly”? Was about to go “of counsel” with my firm of 6 years, but then another firm whose partners I really respect (and personally like) offered me a partnership position. I predict my current bosses will *flip* (cut off file access immediately, try to beat me to calling my clients, etc.), so how do I set myself up for a successful transition?

What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed but still need to bill and meet deadlines?

Just finished watching Downfall, call me naive but it amazes me how not one person got jail time.

Hi, anyone else end up in civil litigation and not really understand how you ended up here or why you actually kind of love it here? Even though you have to fight it back like a deeply established weed so you have some semblance of an individual life?

Anyone else feeling the whiplash of following supreme court drama and then going to work the next day pretending like half your rights aren't up for debate?

Motions
I work in a midsize firm and we have the basic subscription to westlaw, which doesn’t include the ability to see filed briefs, motions, etc without incurring additional costs. I’m wondering if there is a service in the NJ/PA area that gives you access to previously filed motions and briefs? So if I’m drafting a summary judgment I could search the service and find a similar one. If this doesn’t exist.. I think I found the next million dollar idea lol

How does one find a therapist? Like what are the steps to finding a good therapist and does insurance cover anything? Everyone always encourages therapy, but never gives a run down on how to start.

Anybody know if and how much I can contribute to my Roth IRA to reduce my 2020 tax liability? I’m trying to pay less taxes but Jesus this pandemic has been great for my law firm and salary.

Anyone able to provide info on market comp for biglaw 5th-year in the Midwest (non-Chicago)?

I have created a bowl for those who want to know more about their potential new firm - ask anonymously and hopefully someone within the firm will respond! Or we can help find the right person for you! Bowl name is biglaw offer - see you there!