I am very pregnant, due October 19th. I also have been applying at other firms because I am desperate to relocate and get out of my practice area. I never get bites, so my motto has just been, well, might as well apply, regardless of pregnancy. But I just got an interview invite to one of my top pick firms! Any advice on how to handle it? It will be a zoom interview, so I can hide the pregnancy, but I'm not even sure if that's the best route. Help me figure out my life, please! 😁

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Congrats! Me too! Due Oct 21!
My thoughts- kill the interview! You have no obligation to tell them your pregnant until you get and offer! Let them get to know you first and they may not even care about a potentially deferred start date!

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Yes! Kill the interview (point your camera up!) If you get an offer, then talk about post-leave start dates!!

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An employment law attorney can verify, but my recollection is FMLA protections don't start until you've been with an employer for 12 months. May also be worth noting that many places don't offer leave pay for an employee until a certain amount of time has passed. Depending on your situation, starting after your maternity may be necessary.

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Congrats! That’s awesome! Can definitely relate to just applying to places. Focus on getting the offer and then you can start talking about pregnancy with them.

One potential kink - during the interviews, you may be asked (usually by a partner) when you are available to start, so think about a good way of answering that.

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Makes sense. I have no idea what I'm doing. Haha.

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I understand everyone’s points from a legal perspective but I would not be comfortable deceiving them because it is over zoom and it’s not something you’d be able to hide if you interviewed in person. I think being genuine will go a lot further and if they don’t want to hire you because you’re pregnant and can’t start for a few months, then you can’t change that. Maybe they’ll be understanding to having you come on board in a few months and things will go well! If you accept an offer and tell them you can start in February or March they can rescind their offer anyway so you don’t lose anything by being upfront IMO.

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It's illegal to make an employment decision based on pregnancy, so you'd just be helping them not violate the law.

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I had a candidate in a similar situation a few months ago - I wouldn't say anything about the pregnancy until you have an offer. My candidate ended up with multiple offers and only told her now current firm about being pregnant after accepting - it was completely. Congrats!

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Can I ask what your candidate did about maternity leave? If an offer came, likely the same month I am due, is paid leave from the new firm even possible? Is using my currents firm's leave possible, if they are somehow kept in the dark about me leaving? Or would I most likely be without paid leave until my start date? I would love some insight on how to navigate that.

I'm in a similar situation. I'm due September 24, and during my most recent interview, they asked when I'd be available to start. Because it's so close to my due date, I felt like it was right to disclose that I'm pregnant and likely wouldn't be able to start for several months. (If it wasn't so close, I probably wouldn't have said anything.) I haven't received an offer yet, but they haven't counted me out as I've had follow up conversations since.

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I wouldnt mention it until after you get an offer letter, and then do it in writing (if they won’t staff you because of the pregnancy then I’d want to document the discrimination for an EEOC complaint)

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Would NOT mention it until after an offer. They all say its not a consideration but who are you kidding? Ull be out in a month for a 5-6 months. (As you should be to baby bond). But this is something that will be used against you.

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I think you should be upfront about it. First off, if it factors into their decision at all (which, of course, it shouldn’t), you wouldn’t want to work there anyway. Second, I feel like waiting until you have an offer suggests you think it might be a problem. Why hide it when it would certainly factor into your transition?

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Congratulations! I wouldn't say anything until getting the offer. It's not their business, honestly, and there many reasons why someone wouldn't want to disclose this during the interview process. Life happens and they can staff and destaff you if necessary. A friend in biglaw recently did the same, and ended up going on maternity leave 3 months into the job. The firm had a 12 month waiting period for maternity benefits but she worked out a way to split the time up. Do what's best for you and your family. Best of luck!!

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I really appreciate everyone's perspectives! Thank you all!

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