I have a manager who micromanages and it is getting out of hand with how accessible I have to be through email and chat at all hours. He will start going on a rant on chat at Friday night (10pm) when I’m trying to relax from the week. How do I communicate boundaries without being offensive since he is already mad at something to lecture me about to begin with? (Me - 25F , manager - 40M)

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I assume your manager is reaching out to you via slack, teams? If so sign out off the app. The fact that your appearing offline, or appearing away and not responding should send the message. Alternatively, have a frank conversation with him

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I kind of get the same from my manager. Less ranting but more pings at 10pm - 12am. I use teams and enable quiet hours and days which means I never get notified

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I get texts and emails like this a lot. And I know it’s hard to resist but I either don’t respond until Monday or I use a “movie rule” which means I could be at the movies (this is a pre Covid rule but still) I could be at the movies for about 2 hours and I wouldn’t have access to my phone. So, who’s to say you’re not watching a movie/at the movie theatre? So IF I respond, I wait about 2 hours to do so and my response is a short as possible.

After some time, it has sent the message that “she’s not easy to reach on the weekends, so I’ll have to discuss this with her on Monday”

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Idk what to say but it seems horrible. Good luck...
Could you talk to your counselor?

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