I just broke off my first real relationship after almost 5 years. Even though I made the final call, the pain is still horrible and I have depression/anxiety separate from this. Any advice beyond the

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You must have made the call for a good reason. It’s ok to mourn the loss, only time can help. Talk to someone, go do an activity, try to distract yourself as much as you can

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typical ‘watch chick flicks and eat ice cream’? Both tips and commiseration appreciated!

It’s ok OP, we are here for you. DM me if you want to talk about it! Why did you break it off?

Five years is a long time to have invested in a relationship but trust that you know what’s best for you and hanging on when it’s not right wouldn’t make it more right just prolong the inevitable. If you want to eat ice cream and watch chick flicks in your pjs all weekend with a bottle of while while you listen to Adele and ugly cry that is totally acceptable - if you are sad allow yourself to be sad but after the cliche grieving focus on things you want to do for yourself - maybe start exercising, sign up for cooking classes, or get your motorcycle license - and spend time with people in your life who are going to be comforting and make you feel happy.

Thank you all for your thoughtful responses 💙

Sorry to hear that OP! Stay strong and hugs 🤗

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