I have a small team that reports to me and I usually buy them each a holiday gift. One of my reports is now on a PIP and part of the reason is because of the very disrespectful way he has treated me. He is still my employee and I think I probably should still get him a gift if I'm giving everyone else one, even though it kind of kills me. What do you think?

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If there a coal dealer in your town? One lump should suffice. Seriously, you should take the high road. The ostensible purpose of the plan is improvement. And giving the person the same gift, or a commensurate gift, as everyone else may actually help to ameliorate the problems you've been having. Plus, we're talking Christmas, time to have a big heart.

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Do the same for every employee, regardless.

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I think you need to treat them all the same.

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A good leader will forgive and move on. If you single him out this would look bad on you. Take this as an opertunity to teach. If the team member has any morlas he or she will know they need to applogize for that behavior.

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Go to a dollar tree store, they have holiday mugs with charcoal in it.

My initial reaction was everyone the same But I would consult HR because this could send the employee a conflicting message, especially if they are on termination path.

Be the professional you expect him to be and buy him a gift. It doesn’t have to be something big but definitely buy him something.

Best to give him a gift and avoid any ADDITIONAL adversity...

Absolutely, I think it's important for a gift to be shared among the entire team. This not only reflects your commitment to the organization but also demonstrates your fairness as a leader.

I agree, you can't single anyone out and still need to treat them equally

Yes, treat each employee the same.

I believe that if you are giving gifts for a holiday that you celebrate then you would give everyone a gift. If you are giving gifts as a part of a reward for a job well done, production driven or to boost morale then you can and should be more discriminating as to who you give gifts to.

I once had a manager who didn’t really like me and for Christmas he got everyone else something nice and I got a $5 Walmart clearance candle. it truly was the lamest gift. I think I ended up throwing it away actually at work. That supervisor did see that, and then proceeded to lash out at me. Saying I should be grateful for being included however, my supervisor could not respect me as a person, and so I did not respect them as a supervisor. I ultimately said to them don’t even bother next time.

Give one anyway. Be the bigger person, besides, not including people is a form of bullying. Yep, look it up.

I only have one question. Are you hiring? 😁🤣

On the surface, no he doesn’t deserve it. Deep down/ at the end of the day, yes we should be the bigger person and bite the bullet. we don’t know why they are they way they are. personal or their own demands.

Get everyone the same thing, so it’s not seen as favoring one over the other, costing the same amount. Distribution all at the same time. Scale back going forward. It may be time to re-evaluate work/life balance.

Have you heard of that old time saying? Kill them with kindness!

I agree with Manager 1. Giving everyone else a gift and not your problem child will be a red flag to the employee and HR. Who knows, the act of gift giving may improve the relationship.

Hi this is a tough situation we have all dealt with. But as their leader you should rise above petty differences, although that incident could have been nastier than you have shared. Your leadership in being neutral and fair will resonate with the rest of the team and who knows make an inroad with this employee. A man is always judged not by the way he treats his equals but those who are below him in station. People will be watching, and they will appreciate you

No gift don’t give him mixed messages!

I would buy gift to all employees. Just to show him that you are bigger person .Kill him with kindness!

Yes. You give him the gift because you are not on the PIP. He is. And you are the better person.
You are more aware of your actions and consequences.

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