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You kneel down so you are eye level and tell your 3 year old to grow a pair. That you earned this trip and that he or she can join once they have paid their dues.
I have a three year old too. It’s hard. Of course I can’t get inside their head to figure out what they really mean when they make that request. But my instincy is it’s not exactly what it feels like it is. It feels like “daddy i love you so much and you work too much and I never see you.” But I think that’s how an adult mind would process it. I think in a 3 year-old’s brain it’s more like “daddy you’re going someplace I think is cool and fun, could I go with you?” So with that in mind, I would say “San Francisco is only for big people. You can go when you’re older. But we are going to do something cool together when we get back...” and then give them some time togeher to look forward too, like a trip to the zoo. That way you get their mind off the trip and looking forward to the post-trip.
I’m in SF and you can come
See my three year old. Hell you can even take him home
My dad traveled a lot for work. He would bring me back something cool from every place he went to. It wasn’t the object he brought back, it was the fact he was thinking about me when he was gone. That meant the world to me.
1. FaceTime morning and night... show them your hotel room
2. Bring something back
3. Send a postcard/card
4. Send something small from Amazon
5. Ice cream date when you get home
Managing Director, we’re all glad you don’t have kids. Now sashay away
FaceTime helps while you're away.
I FaceTime my 3 year old with a puppet it help keep their attention and he tends to tell me more about what’s happening if it’s that puppet that’s asking.
Not having kids is so great...
my dad gave me the amenity kit from the airplane. god i still love a good mini toothbrush.
One day you will look back and wish you spent more time with your daughter.
"No honey, I dont get paid enough to take you with me."
I had to leave for a 5 week shoot and my 3 year old saw I was packing and put on his backpack to come with me and bawled his eyes out that he couldn’t. I remember facetiming him from the plane as we were taking off. Still crying. Two years later he still begs to come with me ... leaving for a week-long shoot tomorrow. :(
At least I was able to bring him on a shoot last winter, where he got to be that kid on the set.
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I forgot to mention that thanks to the above, my daughter looks forward to me leaving...
...something she has in common with most people at my agency.
When my son was small I would make videos of myself reading to him so he felt close to me before bedtime when he watched them. I would also buy cute little gifts for him whenever I saw them. Then when I traveled I would wrap the gifts, one for each day, and put them in a grab bag. I would call him each morning and asked him what he got from me today. It made him happy and excited to wake up and get a gift but it also made him feel I was thinking about him.
Traveling when you have small children is definitely one of the tougher aspects of a job. Like Skip’s advice, I tried to touch base with my daughter & wife 2x a day to keep up with what was going on. I always brought back a postcard & gift. And the first weekend back it was a daddy/daughter lunch of her choice. And keep positive about how you’ll be back soon
My daughter is four. She processes hints like ACD1 described. I talk about the cities I’m going to so she gets a better sense of the world.
@PM1 Don’t you think traveling so he can keep his job is important now?
@OP Stop being so hard on yourself. Unless you’re on the road more than you’re home, it’s not going to make a difference. Your child experiences the same emotion every time you leave the house. And just as quickly, it’s out of their mind.
Agree with Skip, bring home a gift, etc. your child will start to look forward to your travel
I had been working like crazy for months and my then 3 year old tried to tie us together with a rope because she didn’t want me to leave. It really sucked but we got through it and you will too. Your child is still small and they need you, but sometimes you can’t be there. They need to know that you love them and will be back. It’s a good lesson. It’s hard though. You both are gonna be ok. FaceTime is the best. And you know what, grown ups need a break sometimes too. Enjoy the hotel room and the ability to walk on the floor barefoot without stepping on a LEGO.