My hands are shaking!! I just got off a call with my toxic manager who is clearly not happy I am being poached for another division. I tried to hold firm as he attempted to 20 question me, who was it, who wants me, what division, how did they find out about me? And of course the gaslighting of “why didn’t you come to me I could have helped or made introductions”. Clearly everything is about him. How have you handled such situations? What could I have done better with my abusive manager?

Is it fair game to report someone’s particularly polarizing IG posts to HR? Was friendly with this person but now I wouldn’t ever want to work with them after some of the things they’ve posted.

At this point, I’m looking forward to telling opposing counsel in this one case that I’m leaving my firm more than telling my firm. Between the ridiculous theory of the case, the truly obnoxious discovery requests, and the self-righteous attitude, I can’t wait to never talk to this guy again.

Am I particularly uptight, or is writing meant to be done alone, without a partner talking to you? With past partners, we chat through script notes and then I go off to execute. Current partner likes to sit and chat as I write. To me, writing is crafting a conversation. So I can’t talk to you and simultaneously talk to this audience. Of course I can just say “I’m gonna go write.” But since we’re both CD level, I’m like…is this his first rodeo? Maybe other writers are different though.

The relationship with my copy partner isn’t working as I expected. This person waters down every single idea we have. Have you experienced that before? If so, how would you manage the situation?

Do you guys respond to emails and phone calls over the weekend or have you been able to put boundaries in place wit your boss?

What do you do when when someone at the top of your firm says something bigoted and you don’t call them out immediately?

Have too much on your desk? Maybe one of those briefs is a bit boring?
Send it my way, I'm here to flex my copy muscles for you.

All I ask is you give me feedback when I send it back.

I work part time for a startup for equity and am attending an event on behalf of the startup. I’ve only been here a few months and asked multiple times to have a prep meeting with my boss. He instead sent me a 15 page document outlining 40 questions I should be able to answer the day before the event.
I’m so incredibly stressed as I don’t want to show up unprepared and make myself look bad. Idk how to make light of this situation at this point

Having a hard time dealing with how incompetent and lazy my business director is. Any tips?

Hi, we just launched Diversity and inclusion committee at our work place and one of our many initiatives is to share some reminders /notifications about safety and inclusion in common employee platforms/portals e.g There’s no place or time when discrimination is acceptable. Please feel free to report to HR if you com across any discriminatory behavior. Anyone has any more similar ideas what other topics we can add?

I was talking with an Asian mentee who told me that he has experienced the following microagression during job interviews: "You speak English soooo well!" Any suggestions about how he can respond?

What are some creative ways that I can reward my team? They've been working really hard lately and I want to show my appreciation

Anyone else’s love life so DRY that you find yourself having a crush on an older man at work who is in senior leadership? I keep it professional, but I feel like I’m doing something so bad by having this crush.

What's a guilty pleasure you indulge in at work?

If you have a love bracelet, do you wear it to work?

Kippot — do any of you wear one at client sites? How do you message that with your firm and the client firm if there’s comments?

Check me here: other side attorney has already reached out to me directly via email saying that an LOI is coming… Then, she sends the LOI addressed to my client, and CC:s me only. It should have been addressed & emailed to me, and copy the business folks, when an attorney knows the other side is represented by an attorney. Am I overreacting for being annoyed?

Does anyone know what the dress code is for the upcoming CAALA Trial Skills seminar? Do people usually wear suits or is it business casual? Thank you!

Have you been fired before even starting your new job?

I signed for a new job two months ago and will start next month (3 mo notice period in Europe). They were very keen on getting me on-board ASAP before signing but since I signed the contract it has been silent from the new employee. I've emailed them with questions as I'll be re-locating to NL and it takes them 1-2 weeks to reply. Given all that's going on in the world, I'm worried they might fire me before I even start.

What kind of appreciation do you prefer? Private or public?

Did you choose to work in the private sector or academia? Why?

Any thoughts on the debt finance teams in the Chicago offices of the following firms: DLA, Winston, Polsinelli, Holland & Knight, McGuireWoods, Blank Rome? Thank you.

Any GSDM senior level creatives here?

Anyone have any experience with Handsome? Good? Bad?

Pranam Fieshes ,

How to declare tax on joining bonus? First time got joining bonus , how to mention it in tax declaration . Please help

Your lovingly,
Fish

26 y/o JD, CPA, CFP --- what are my odds landing a career with the FBI?

Is there anyone on here that has any negatives about working in FP&A? I always see it as an exit opportunity a ton of people want to go in and I know the pros but what are some of the cons?

Unfortunately was dragged into an audit despite the fact I don’t work in audit. Why does audit RM say yeah your hours will be 50 hours/week when you’ll have to work way more to do the audit. Seems very dumb - if you have work do it, if not don’t work…

I give the clients gold, but they decide instead, they want me to paint it with sh*t.

Invited my students to our Church's Youth group.
They actually came! Couldn't believe it.

Hey guys, time sensitive question (need FSO input too). Got an offer from two companies. One is a large private company and I’d be doing their revenue rec and ASC 606. The other (cont.)

Looking at cpa experience requirements in MA. You need at least 1 years of experience but "no more than 3 years". What does that part mean?

Thoughts on getting CFP when done with CPA (1 test left) and pivoting from audit to personal financial planning? Estates, taxes, savings, etc. Or should I just stick the OG plan and go into industry FP&A when I make senior/CPA?

I mean there's an amount X in my letter, but if I worked for 6 months out of 12 months, would I get X/2 or X?

When you realize the greatest value add you can bring to the deal today is picking up everyone's lunch

Happy Holidays to everyone! Make sure you take time to unplug and recharge. Even a 10 min nap is rest. It’s a crazy time of year.

Mood today is reflection. What’s the biggest challenge you have faced in your life? How did you overcome it?

Good morning Fishies!! Question of the day. What’s an experience you’ve had dealing with micro-aggressions? How did you deal with it? Do you feel like you reclaimed your power and confidence?

Found out today my toxic manager bad mouthed me to an HR rep in a different division. This correlated with his bad management and abusive behavior. Luckily the new manager I’ll soon be working with dismissed it. Her words of wisdom “reflect on what you could have done differently, you can only control your actions”. How does that resonate for you? Have you had similar experiences?

Welcome to a community dedicated to supporting those who deal with or wish to learn more about micro-aggressions. Did you know that 72% of folks are bullied by their managers? 36% of folks end up quitting their job because of bullying.