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I have four cats and they get everywhere. Just part of sharing your space with your cats. Maybe ask your boyfriend to tell you what her loves about his cat so you can view their relationship through his eyes.
But please don't be one of those girlfriends who tells a man to choose between her and his pet. The cat jumping on your bed or walking into the closet (??) Are extremely normal behaviors. I'd be more worried if you said the cat was peeing everywhere or ruining furniture.
EY1 solid advice, one small correction, the cat is jumping on ITS bed and going in ITS wardrobe/closet. First, it’s a cat, everything is theirs (see almost any cat cartoon). Second, the cat was there first; OP is sleeping in the cat’s bed and putting things in their wardrobe.
As a cat person myself, if you can’t live with/love the cat, the BF isn’t the right one for you.
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Ey1: please be a little more sensitive towards OP. The reason she’s here is for advice, let’s give that to her. Everyone isn’t a cat/ dog person.
OP, have a conversation with your bf. This is normal pet behavior. I was never an animal person till I got married into a family with dogs and within a few months got used to sharing space with them. Now I love those dogs and can’t imagine life without them.
Curious: Did you not know he had a cat before moving in with him?
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You don’t have to love his cat but respect the animal. It’s his family too. Animals have feelings and he’s the cat’s family . It would be heartbreaking if he decided to remove the cat to please you. I’m not saying that is the case but this animal relies on your bf and our beloved pets become depressed and heartbroken when they’re rejected.
I have two cats that I love, but I always close the door to the bedroom and try to have that as a cat free zone. Perhaps that could be an option? Beware that cats are masters of opening doors, so I had to be creative to keep the door locked
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Why do you close your bedroom door? I was thinking of doing this (even though I’d love my soon to be cat in my bedroom) in case of potential allergies. I read this as a tip
I went through this. Never really got used to it, but did set some boundaries that I thought were reasonable. Such as:
1) setting the expectation that the wardrobe/closet will be kept closed at all times to keep the cat out of it
2) tell the bf that your not ok with the cat in the bed all the time and find ways to prevent it. If you consistently move the car off the bed, over time it will realize that’s not a place it should go (it will still try sometimes, but it won’t be as often).
Cats are not stupid and they are trainable to an extent. They are still sneaky little bastarda and will try to get away with things, but it can be partially remediate.
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Pets were a dealbreaker for me. I just don’t like them in my house. Other people’s house - fine! Cute! Nice! But it’s just too much hassle, responsibility, mess for me. I grew up with pets and they just were always the focus of so much issue at my house, perhaps because my mother is obsessed with them and terrible at training them. So maybe my own family trauma. Anyways, it’s your living space too!
My husband does not like pets and I feel this was a great connection point for us (lol).
Another thought. If you want to keep them out of the bedroom and happy, it might be a good idea to get the cat(s) things to make the rest of the house more appealing to them. E.g. a large cat treehouse, a place to sit near the windows with a view, etc.
OP, your BF can also buy a "warming" pad or cat bed and put designated cat furniture in the bedroom/as an alternate to the closet. Most cats prefer a warmer familiar spot to hang out. If the cat is hanging out in a hidden away closet, it probably wants privacy so consider a cat tree or similar with curtains/ability to hide or having a "cat ok" closet/area with a more enticing cat bed or throw for kitty.
Fwiw I have cats and dont like them in my closet/wardrobe because of shedding. So I keep the wardrobe closed. My cat is sneaky so I have a little elastic band/clip that holds the doors shut.
Very curious how a cat jumping on the bed or going into the wardrobe could impact someone’s daily mood.. 🤔
Im sure everyones SO have things that we thought would be not a big deal before we moved in with them but after cohabitating realized are bigger issues...
Like, my husbands art book collection... thought it was cute and quirkly intellectually old school when we were dating. I... would not have expected that trait to go from cute to "what monster am I living with?!?!" until after spending an afternoon carrying 2,000lbs+ of books up a 3story walk up in august (yes, i freaking weighed them) and then we had to buy special furniture for his precious. And give it its own room. And buy it a dehumidifier.
Lest I sound horrible and resentful, we worked it out :) movers are wonderful, dessicant dehumidifiers are cheap, its easy to put doors on bookcases, and a quiet cozy room lined with bookcases and a pair of reading chaises feels adult and relaxing as hell.
I want to adjust my mindset because my bf loves his cat...but it’s been kind of hard and I don’t want my daily mood to be affected by it.