What was the most surprising thing you have learned throughout the process of your divorce?

I’ve always been a big saver minimum 15% to maxing out my 401k since I graduated college. I’m married to someone who thinks 6% is enough and likes $$$ cars. Other than the cars, they dont really spend money. For the married 🐠, how do you have the conversation with them that what they are doing isn’t enough? I try to guide them and say you want the $$$ cars but the salary you have won’t get there and you’re going to have to find a job that gets them the salary…. Then the fight starts.

Has anyone had experience trying to bring their parent to Canada permanently? I’m looking to move from Asia - just lost a parent, so need to find a way to stay with my other parent. how does the process work? TIA!

Trying to set family expectations and would love thoughts on 2 things. 1. How long after baby will I be ready for visitors beyond our parents? I’m thinking a few weeks. 2. Our 3 grandmothers are 1-3 hour flights away (3 diff places) and cannot travel. When will we be ready to take baby to see them? I’m thinking 4-6 months but that would also be flu/RSV season. Can’t predict the future but family is already talking about trips and I want to set expectations and do what is best for baby. TIA!!

Advice or Book recommendations on how not to get bothered by others/ friends/ peers? What they think or what they do!
Been struggling lately

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

Did you ever have any issues with your family questioning what you do and saying it wasn't a "real job" ? They think being a social worker is fluffy and I should have just become an "actual doctor or psychiatrist"

New to Chicago - how do I find new friends here?

If you loved your small independent broker dealer but they had just been acquired by a much larger corporation which does have benefits in terms, mostly, in technology, but you lose your “family” in the home office, what would you do and who would you look at if you were considering a change of your own?

My boyfriend just found my vibe...

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

Best chill vacation spot where we can also easily keep 3yo son entertained?

Completely off topic
I don't have any friends.. sometimes i feel very lonely.. i don't have anyone to share my thoughts or feeling.. there is this void.. trying to pickup things to distract myself but it's not helping much... Seeking your inputs!! Sorry for this off topic question.

About to have a difficult conversation with my parents about treating my wife with respect. Please send advice and good vibes.

Going through some relationship issues and having a hard time focusing at work the past couple of days. Not sure how to prevent my personal life from affecting my work.

I am overly stressed that my parents are visiting and staying with me for 5 weeks. Paid them for a cruise but still have 4 weeks. I am dreaded to live with them 4 weeks without social engagement cont'

Is Indy a good place to raise a family? Looking to hear from people who actually live here lol

I have strong feelings for my friend who also happens to be my superior at work. We also flirt with each other sometimes. I don’t know what to do.

As a divorcee with a kid, i find it extremely hard to find friends who can relate, or even making friends as it seems there’s a stigma attached to you because your relationship didn’t work out.

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

In light of everything that is going on, I would like to quote a simple yet powerful line from Prophet Mohammad (SAW) last sermon, in which he (SAW) says:

“A white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over a white – except by piety and good action.”

How much in hand will be required enough to have a quality life inside kerala with spouse,kids and parents? What are the various ways that you are following to achive it(to get the salary and/or live with whatever currently you are earning)? Do you have any source of second income? What are the various investments that you are following?
Please do share.

Dang, sorry I meant to comment on the post!

Promoted to SSE with 25% hike and VP as 9% . I had received ACE award in Q3 . I have also maintained utilization report 100% still I got less VP. Can I ask manager to revisit the component

Brand planners, how much time do you typically get when you’re on a new account writing a brief for a new integrated campaign? Do you find yourself having to negotiate/push back with account folks so you have the time to do it properly? Curious with shortening timelines these days how long you all have to think about a brand brief.

Thoughts on moving home to another state? Thinking of going for an MBA or international assignment, and a year at home would help save a lot of money. Is it worth the cost of losing my independence?

What is GC immigration process at Nttdata? How is ogletree doing? Does NTT doing downgrade from eb2 to eb3?

I moved to the Netherlands 3 months ago on a spouse visa. Was working with EY-P earlier. I have been applying to jobs and giving interviews but for some reason things are not working out. I get a different reason everytime (after going through the whole process). This has never happened earlier in life and now I don't know what else to do. I have worked as a strategy consultant (& a researcher). Should I change lines? Where else can I try?
I can't apply to boutique firms since Dutch is mandatory

What is the actual transaction work like at a growth equity firm like Norwest, TCV, Capital G, etc. I’m interested in learning more about minority investments in the $10-$100m range. What is the diligence like, timeline, etc basically, I am curious if this is something only bankers can do/have experience with

Can i140 be filed in premium processing? Is there a chance of petiton rejection these days if filed in premiun?

How much would you charge for a logo and business cards?

Any one from PWC dubai here?

Hello all..
Is BA Continuum India, a subsidiary of Bank Of America ?
I don't see any official website for BA Continuum India..
How is the salary and other perks in BA Continuum
Any leads plz

Hi all! Currently in the process of a career pivot and had a question. My current company wants me to come back for a two week project in August. Is this too big of an ask on a new employer if I request unpaid leave for this time? I had asked them about delaying start date until this project is over but it was too far away, and I’ll start this month instead but haven’t yet. I don’t want to leave or start on a bad note so wondering if it’s even worth bringing up. Thanks!

As a divorcee with a kid, i find it extremely hard to find friends who can relate, or even making friends as it seems there’s a stigma attached to you because your relationship didn’t work out.

Any tips for someone entering the process? How do I pick a lawyer? Do I try to agree with spouse on terms before finding lawyer? Have material assets accumulated during marriage.

Hi all, looking for recommendations for a divorce lawyer in Houston area. Any recommendations would be helpful.

How do I know if I am ready for a divorce?

Sadly this is where I ended up (going through divorce with 6mo infant). Abusive spouse wants shared custody when he doesn’t know a thing about taking care of an infant.. any advice would help re custody or divorce as well. We are not in speaking terms

Are there any mothers here who voluntarily gave primary custody to the kids father? I love my children fiercely but tbh I don’t think I’m cut out to be a single parent. Family and friends tell me I’m a great mom but at the end of the day having them on my own is exhausting and I end up just either letting them do whatever they want Bc I don’t feel strong enough to set a limit about it, or yelling at them. They’re 4 and 7 for reference. Please constructive responses only. Thank you!

My husband repeatedly claims domestic abuse falsely, and it’s getting too much. Now that I have kids he has started saying this to them and they say it back to me. I think he does this because he wants custody of kids or an upper hand when it comes to finances if we end up divorcing. Any ideas on how to handle this

Stupid question but getting a divorce now and having a hard time figuring out what to do with sentimental things such as wedding pictures, travel pics, ornaments we bought together, etc. What did you do? Relationship was over 12 years and don’t know what to do. Should I jus pretend that those 12 years never happened or she was not there?

Divorce is amicable and based on growing apart rather than bc of cheating or fighting or anything else..

Thank you for creating this bowl

Thinking about divorce. Wife had an affair 3 years ago that I haven’t been able to move past. Been married 11 years and have two kids though. Restarting individual and couples therapy before I pull the trigger. Anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I blow up the family if I can’t get beyond this?

Sister going through divorce with verbally abusive spouse, just received temporary judgement for custody of two year old and was awarded joint custody (she was anticipating she’d get sole custody). It’s tearing her apart and I can’t help/live in another state. Anyone have a good recommendation for family lawyers or counselors in/around Phoenix? Any good support groups that could help?

Has anyone watched Marriage Story?

Has anyone here completed their divorce without lawyers? It’s amicable between both of us and we are agreeing of the separation of assets. Do I still need to get a lawyer or can I do this on my own?

How’s everyone doing? Any struggle this week?

Divorce lawyers in Boston / Worcester?

Folks,
Have been married for 15 years and have a kid of 11 years. My spouse is falsely accusing me of domestic abuse and trying to get separated. We have had incompatibility even before marriage on various issues but it was an arranged marriage, we tried to work it out and stay together. Her side is asking her to move on. She has taken my kids passport and kept it with her. What are the options I have to defend myself?

Has anyone found dating having kids challenging?

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

Anyone co-parenting in different states? Looking for insight on visitation, general feelings, and how the child/children are doing. Thank you!

Anyone knows how alimony works ? In terms of salary ? How much more than your partner do you need to make, to be granted alimony… I’m asking because I have seen cases where one person sacrifices themselves studying and working hard, while the other person is basically doing the bare min, and they can get alimony if they separate ? In some cases, for life.