What was the most surprising thing you have learned throughout the process of your divorce?

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Who the person I was married to really was.

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People can be shadier than I ever even imagined and lawyers can be evil, sneaky sons of nutcrackers who don’t give a damn about the family involved. Divorce is the worst.

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The kind of shit you see coming out is mind blowing...

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It’s been 14 months since we separated I am still amazed by the shit that gets cooked up; just be mature and pragmatic and be done with it

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Oh man... that is what i tell everyone... you really don’t know someone until you go through a divorce with them...

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Agreed. I barely recognize the person my ex turned into

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My husband repeatedly claims domestic abuse falsely, and it’s getting too much. Now that I have kids he has started saying this to them and they say it back to me. I think he does this because he wants custody of kids or an upper hand when it comes to finances if we end up divorcing. Any ideas on how to handle this

Hopefully this bowl thrives, I could use the perspective. Going through a divorce with two kids now.

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How’s everyone doing? Any struggle this week?

How are you’ll doing? Has life gotten better …I am still trying to adjust

As a divorcee with a kid, i find it extremely hard to find friends who can relate, or even making friends as it seems there’s a stigma attached to you because your relationship didn’t work out.

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