I was in a meeting, and there was a new attendee, a fellow Asian guy.

Senior member: “Hi [new attendee’s name], where are you from?”

New attendee: “from [city and state]”

Senior member: “No, where are you reeeeaaaallllyyy from?”

**awkward silence**

New attendee: “from God”

Well… 🫣

If you are an immigrant and people ask you where you are from, how do you usually respond?

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Is there a polite way to ask someone what their ethnicity is? Obviously the “where are you reeeally from” is rude but I also don’t think that people who ask that question mean it in a malicious way typically. Is the topic of culture/ethnicity just off limits at work? I ask all this as a white guy who grew up around a lot of Asian and Indian people and was fortunate to be exposed to a lot of different cultures.

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A] India is in Asia. Indians are Asians too
B] No. Do white people get asked that?

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“What is your ethnicity?” is how I like to be asked.


-second gen Asian American.

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I get tired of saying I'm from Oregon, Boston, and Maryland... I now say, "born & raised in Seoul, Korea." I also never refer myself as a Korean-American anymore, too long, once over 40 years old I just don't give a shit anymore.

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What’s your heritage?

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As an immigrant, I do not mind being asked where I am from even by someone I met for the first time. I just assume they are interested in knowing me more and are trying to find a way to connect. Yes there are people who might be racist, however, this topic is sometimes overly exploited in my opinion. It has gone to a point that we are tiptoeing when it comes to what words we should say instead of looking at what my intention is.

Descrimination is a sense of self interpretation. If someone is descrimintating me by my ethnicity yet I just move on without making a fuzz about it, I won't be cultivating the thought of "I am inferior" than others. Just my two cents.

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Nice twist on my original “daddy’s pants” quip. But I wouldn’t put momma and her womb even next to a wtf!

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On God?

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Repeat the city and state and then ask them where they’re reeeeaaally from.

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People are just insensitive sometimes

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This annoys me so much. I just make sure to put on my resting b face and ignore the question. I don't care if it gets awkward later on.

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Is this for real? I hope you're not making this up. People are so insensitive! Ugh.

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I’m in SF and people rarely ask this question. But when they do I say:

I was born in ___, but I live in __ for the past ___ years.

Also, as an immigrant, I feel it’s an appropriate question to ask IF you speak with an accent. It comes from a place of curiosity and curiosity is better than arrogance.

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Is he really an immigrant or was the Senior member a jerk?

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It should not matter. I have been in situations when my more senior colleague of Japanese descent but born and raised in US was asked, so where are you from? And it’s still awkward as f… even though he’s third generation American.

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He should have said that he's from his mother's womb. Lol. What is the senior expecting him to answer?

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“Manila”
that normally forks the conversation

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With my HR contacts email address and phone number. That conversation is outrageous.

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“I was adopted when I was a child and do not know” 😂😂 or be obstinate and keep telling them the wrong answer and force them to keep clarifying their question. Then flip the question back and ask them where they’re *really* from

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As a woman of color I don't usually get offended. People usually ask what culture I celebrate if they don't like my initial answer.

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