I'm exhausted beyond explanation. Is it my fault that I got into this situation? Yes. Do I know how to stop tending to 'emergencies' over the weekend? No. So here's me looking for help. I would love to get some advice on how everyone balanced their life and work in their early years.

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The only solution I could find was to go in house where I could actually set boundaries that didn't seem alien to my coworkers. I just had to accept my limits.

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I had family members literally die/spiral into drug addiction due to overwork. It solidified my belief pretty early on that absolutely nothing is worth sacrificing your health. Yeah we all might have to pull all nighters or skip things here and there, but you should not be addicted to overworking. Google the article about the Wilson Sonsini partner who died of an OD. That may bring you back down to earth. Health > superficial sense of utility

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It helped me to prioritize sleep and going to the gym. This improved my overall health and stamina. Not drinking was another big improvement because it saves so much time.

I also tried to work on cases where there weren’t emergencies. In litigation, I found that emergencies are usually a sign that something isn’t being managed properly. After all, you know deadlines in advance and can often anticipate motions.

A deeper issue is if there are underlying mental or physical health issues at play. Work can mask these things so be sure to keep up with your physicals and have a great therapist.

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