I'm getting married in August, and I submitted my PTO request today. I'm going to be out of the office for eight days in total. My manager looked at me and said, " If it turns out we can function normally with you gone for so long, we might be looking at a different conversation." What the flying hell does that mean? If I go on my honeymoon and the office doesn't burn down, I'm just out of a job?

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That’s wild. Straight to HR with that one. You have a right to PTO, especially for celebrating big life moments. Don’t let your manager ruin your time on your honeymoon with hostile threats.

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Leave this place at once. What an ass!!

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You only get to have these huge life experiences once - I would be looking for another job as you'll always remember being treated this way during what is supposed to be the happiest time of your life. Some things are more important

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Cringe manager. Start thinking about switching teams or agencies. That’s a crazy thing to say.

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Go to HR right now.

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Toxic

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document all of this if ya can btw just in case

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He is quoting the Brutal Lawyer from TikTok

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I'm going to HR Monday morning. Think it will be a problem that no one was around to witness this conversation?

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How did it go?

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You probably should have submitted PTO a few months ago for a vacation that long.

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Straight harassment.

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Report them to HR! Against policy!

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Sue them for wrongful termination.

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Are you working at my former job? Lmao. Sounds toxic, agree with these comments

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Would love to know who OP’s manager is

Probably Omnicom

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That’s interesting!It seems like I'm facing another choice, an either/or dilemma. If you're important, you can't go on your honeymoon; if you're not important, you'll lose your job.

That's the craziest thing to say! You deserve better. Especially when it is earned time off!

Life is short , specially something important things happened, they should offer you more holidats

This is textbook managerial harassment.

Do you two have a rough relationship? Are you on a PIP or something? Are you on an open-ended freelance contract? I’m scrambling for a reason any sane manager would say something even close to that.

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