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I don’t even like phone calls and FaceTime with people I know and love, it’s certainly not my preference with a stranger. Besides, I can tell a lot more about someone’s energy and intellect from the way they write, so texting and sharing pics in that forum tells me enough to know whether I want to meet in person or not.
(This is my personal preference, don’t come at me, you maniacs.)
MD, The post is referring to communications before a 1st date and you can absolutely gauge the energy and intellect of someone via text. Now whether it’s an accurate gauge or not will be determined on the first date. This isnt everyone’s preference of communication and that’s fine.
F- I would never go on a date without a video call. I want to verify the veracity of the pictures and I want to look into their eyeballs and get a gut a feeling about them. Saves me a lot of time. Especially if we have zero rapport face to face.
I honestly don’t understand when people say they don’t like phone calls (videos calls fine; I think they’re weird still myself). I think it’s a red flag if someone doesn’t want to verbally communicate prior to a first date.
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(M) I have to FaceTime and talk on the phone before going on a date. It’s saved me from a lot of dates where they had super old pictures on their profile
So you only date women with IPhones ?
F - I typically will only do a phone chat, I work out after work and I'm not going to spend any time to get ready for a video chat.
My profile has recent photos and a recent video.
I appreciate the opportunity to connect in advance this way as I’ve found it saves me time too. Also, frankly, it was easier for me to say let’s not go on a date if the vibe was off than it was to say I’m not interested after a date.
Yea you should always do a cold call or video call first before going on a date. It’s a waste of both of your times to not to a pre-call.
Thanks, everyone, for sharing your perspectives. I'm pleasantly surprised that so many of you like the idea of a phone or video call first before meeting.
I'm going to try to do that more going forward.
F - I won’t meet an online date unless I’ve had a FaceTime chat with him. I need to verify what he looks like, if there is some chemistry, if we can hold a conversation, and if I feel ok around him - all of which you cannot decide through text alone. If someone won’t video chat with me, that’s a red flag, and tells me they might be an online scammer (common in online dating) or a less than good person that I don’t need to meet up with on a date.
How do you do a video chat and then just say, nope, not into you? Wouldnt that be quite harsh?
You can send a text after the face time saying hey thanks for chatting, just not feeling the chemistry and wish you the best. Then block, delete, unmatch whatever and move on. You didn’t ghost and gave them a real answer but you also don’t want to hear any arguments, whining, or appeals.
I feel like after wonderful and fulfilling conversation that a date instead of video chat. Video chat comes into play after the first date. I feel that if you make a connection then it would be in person not phone. The way to gain my heart is to lock in my trust if earned.
F - I want a video chat before I meet anyone.
F- me too
Not enough conversation. I dont want to meet someone with nothing in common. Friend stuff
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i dont like neither calls nor video calls.
i orefer f2f as soon as a person passed social and brains filter.
if we dont like each other as M-W we might be helpful for each other in any other topic
No below on the first date maybe after the 3rd or so when comfy.
I have matched with bots on dating apps who avoid any phone or video calls - let alone meet 🙃