I’m heading back to where I grew up tomorrow for ten days with the family. It’s a vacation at the beach, but as we all know, family time can be triggering time. I plan to hit up several AA meetings and make sure I’m taking time for myself.

What sorts of techniques, tools, and tricks do you use when on travel or with family?

Guys, have you gone through some traumatic experiences, or realized somethings that unnecessarily cause you to be too aware instead of living your best life? If so, how were you able to reconnect...

Anyone else have family know you are struggling to conceive and then when their kids act out they turn to you and say, “you sure you want kids?” I guess they are trying to lighten things but I find it really hurtful.

First it was covid, now monkeypox and even polio…? What’s happening to this world, I didn’t even get married yet

Dating someone im crazy about. Only downside we have different priorities. She is party/friends focused while I would rather family time, time w her, or doing hobbies. Any tips? Should I give it time?

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

How can I approach my boyfriend who has an alcohol problem to help him get healthier ?

What is the appropriate way to sympathize with relatives when their loved ones pass away. I never know what to say on the phone other than ask is everyone ok and I am sorry to hear their loss. Cont...

Advice or Book recommendations on how not to get bothered by others/ friends/ peers? What they think or what they do!
Been struggling lately

Seeing local parents reacting to the public school lottery results in DC, got me super nervous about when it’s my kids turn.

I hate the idea of having so little control.

Anyone file for divorce without a lawyer if both parties are consenting? How does it work when you don’t have any joint assets (separate bank accounts, no house) and no kids? Married <5 years

My partner is a cancer survivor, and I brought her in to talk to my kids. I had her stay for one of our GSA meetings and did something I have never done before--I answered questions about our journey together. It felt very liberating, but still scary.

sigh* last week Saturday my s/o & I broke up after our 3 year relationship. & it really been affecting me negatively — not eating, autopilot mode, self isolation & diving deep into work. Today I decided to go outside, where I picked up some food to go and went to an outdoor movie by myself; where I had the realization I just really enjoy being by myself. Idk, maybe I’m just better off single after so many failed relationships/am I being dramatic? but anyone else has given up on love?

How do I deal with minimal support from our principal when it comes to dealing with parents?

Hey guys, all jokes aside, how does everyone have a life besides work in this industry? Weekdays I work and sleep, and I’ve worked most weekends. I’ve canceled so many plans and haven’t seen friends..

So we waited all that time to learn that Madison and Peter are just going to give it a shot against the wishes of Peters awful Mom?

why do i struggle when my s/o isn’t texting me? ik they’re not cheating on me, ik they still love me, all that jazz.

but for some reason i’m not at peace when they take some time to themselves.

any tips or advice?

Coming out at work by bringing my girlfriend (serious) to our firm outing!!! Nervous but ready to be happy and open!

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Any suggestions for getting kids to do homework? Sped Math 6th grade high need area - I cannot get these kids to turn in hw. Anyone agree with the idea of allowing class time for HW? I am at a loss

Is it okay to disappear from friends & family to work on career change goals (several months)? I want to focus and not get distracted by friends & family needs to see me or attend certain things as it takes up a lot of time. If I focus for a short time, I can quickly achieve my goals to switch. I can hangout with them after all of that. What do you think?? Any feedback will be appreciated.

How and when in the interview process would you go about asking about a company's philosophy on/commitment to Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI)?

I'm actively interviewing with 5 companies right now, but the one that seems most likely to give me an offer is also the only one where I've so far only been interviewed by 3 white men Is there a delicate way to ask why there aren't women and BIPOC involved in the hiring decision process / whether leadership at the company is more inclusive?

Interviewing for a Practice Manager position, what Level should I expect (L6/7/8/9?) Also, any interview prep advice?

Which company is best for react js developer for senior seveloper position.. Valuelabs or ITc infotech… I am considering work flexibility and work life balance.. please share your feedbacks

How’s WLB at EY pune? I am planning to apply for AWS devops or SRE lead position.

Guys, I have 4.5 yr Experience as Robotics process Automation.Currenty I am working as Senior RPA developer(AA).
Do you have any opportunity and referal.please let me know.

In our project, we need a senior Java developer/ Lead who would have hands on exp in Spring framework, Microservices and idea on Cloud Platform.
Please DM me on this and early joiners will be preferred.

I have a counter offer with more package than the Microsoft. Do they have a policy of blacklist the candidate if I change my mind after accepting the offer?

Founded a Nonprofit to help coach veterans in transition and exiting first responders and their families while focusing on changing the stigma of mental health conversation.

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First it was covid, now monkeypox and even polio…? What’s happening to this world, I didn’t even get married yet

Deloitte USI hiring for below skills:-
1) AWS Architect
2) Azure Architect
3) GCP Architect
4) Multicloud Architect

Role: Manager - 9 to 12 yrs of experience. Dm me.

Off the topic.. being in IT field and living in Bangalore, what do you think is best renting a house or opting for a home loan and paying similar emi for 20 years?

What's the max salary for a PM with 13-14 years of experience?

Do you count your car as part of your NW on Mint/other trackers?

How is the company EY india or Ey LLP for Salesforce developers.
Yoe 4

I want to understand about working hours and work pressure.

I have heard few members saying that EY India gives a lot of work pressure and no work life balance,is that true??

When compared to Capgemini, Cognizant,Wipro and TCS ,is it worth joining EY INDIA in terms of wlb

Hearing h1 extensions aren’t getting rejected all time high. I just submitted my extension ☹️

Holding 2 offers. 1 from Accenture and One from Hexaware. Hexaware paying 2lakhs more than Accenture. Which one I Can choose. Accenture taken me for Cloud. Hexaware taken me for Devops. Friends pls suggest. Confused lot

Do anyone know what are the wfh kits will be provided by Hexaware for experienced employees who is joining newly to organization?
Any ideas?

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1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
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Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

First in-person retreat in a while coming up and first for me at this particular firm. Several people have mentioned that much of the bonding etc happens while drinking. I am newly sober and now worried about being in this environment, any tips for making it through the weekend? Similar experiences?

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

I joined a new team and have noticed something off with my Director over the last months (slurring speech, no show to calls or even full days of work). I finally asked a colleague about it today because I’m concerned about my Director. She confirmed that she’s noticed the same over the last few years, but no one ever says anything. In confidence she told me she can often smell alcohol. How can I help? I feel helpless. I’ve already lost someone to addiction and I can’t ignore this. Any advice?