I’m heading back to where I grew up tomorrow for ten days with the family. It’s a vacation at the beach, but as we all know, family time can be triggering time. I plan to hit up several AA meetings and make sure I’m taking time for myself.

What sorts of techniques, tools, and tricks do you use when on travel or with family?

My childhood best friend is getting married in June. Haven’t been to my hometown since 2016. Hope to look huge and surprise them after so long. What’s your motivation?

Here 28 weeks pregnant and tired of hearing you would need to do this for better lactation, you would have sleepless nights. Can a new mother not figure out on her own with the right scientific knowledge ? Is it important to go by what your parents , in-laws or known ones tell you ?

Had a big fight with my gf last night (we live together), looking for advice. She’s a first gen immigrant and her niece recently returned from their home country. She was staying with her brother in law but he’s been drinking a lot so she felt unsafe. She came to crash at my place which I was fine with for a couple of nights. Yesterday she let me know that her niece needs to stay two weeks. She didn’t rly ask she just told me - which rly pissed me off. Am I wrong for wanting to be consulted?

My mother always kept me going, even in the most difficult times, everytime I spoke with her on the phone while I was deployed I left smiling and feeling the warmth that only a mother could bring, I'm here thanks to her.

Thanksgiving is upon us. Send help.

My step in laws are TERRIBLE. Not directly to me but family dynamic is stressful. They parent their youngest kid with pills and ignoring him, so that he does inappropriate things around me with zero correction (walking in on me, insulting me). They are all half siblings (4 boys 30-11) so they all don’t care including my partner. FIL also verbally abuses MIL in front of us. Yet they all want to please him constantly. It’s just bad.

Food was good though.

My husband and I are both very ready to start a family. For those who have finished their PhD while pregnant or with a young child, do you have any regrets?

I started searching for work at anther firm. I accepted an offer for the things I am looking for. I am freaking out over the change even though I know moving on is the best thing for me and my family. I feel so anxious. I'm sad for leaving coworkers now friends. I'm sad that the firm I am leaving let me down.
I will keep pushing forward but the anxiety of leaving is overpowering the excitement of new things to come (things I asked 4). My eyes r tearing rt now...what is wrong w/ me?

Feeling so overwhelmed. Trying to find the balance between an ambitious career and raising a toddler. Feel like I am failing on both fronts. Just can't seem to wrap my head around... (Cont)

I cried in an Uber pool thinking about my ex

Ugh Libby's family is just as toxic as Andrei!

Salaam. 26 M. Houston. My hobbies are traveling, watching sports, and hanging out with friends. Hope to get married this year, ان شاء الله.

How transparent are folks with family & friends re: your fertility journeys? We’re still in the early stages of TTC but found out that I need to get surgery to remove a fibroid which is setting us back about 4-5 months. Debating on whether I want to tell my friends & family. Considering the pros (support, transparency) and the cons (once surgery is over they might keep asking where we’re at, they worry)

How are my fellow gov lawyers doing with $$$ right now? Anyone have financial strategies or tips to providing for a family on a non private sector salary? I want to stay at my CA DOJ job as long as I can but also want to have kids. Live in LA

Is there anything you did for your husband before your first child to make him feel special? He’s been so supportive and helpful for my pregnancy, I want to do something to celebrate him too.

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

Current working as a Director of Sales and Marketing at a large hotel chain. I am now trying to branch out to a work from home position as I have a special needs bonus daughter who we now have every other week 💜. Would love to find something full time from home within the industry, or in the travel market so I can be with her.

How do you deal with trying to live and establish a life of your own but also making sure to grateful and aware of the sacrifices your family has made to get you to where you are now?

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, good for nothing husband and they regret that this marriage happened and dragged every single discussion/scenario that we had in these many months in front of the family members.

i never abused my wife, never demanded anything materialistic from her and or her family, i have taken her to different places, bought everything that she demanded for

Seattle ANTI-FREEZE get together
Thought I’d get the ball rolling based on the activity from the other thread.

9/24 Saturday 10AM - Get together for parents with babies/toddlers
Location : Maple Leaf Reservoir kids park

Please respond if interested in attending

We can def set up another meet up w/o kids too!

I start full-time work in Summer or Fall 2022 but graduate in December. Should I try to find a spring internship? It doesn’t look like many companies are still hiring.

My firm does a firm wide attorney retreat/meeting this summer. I’ll be about 25 weeks pregnant and I have to fly there with my local team/office. I’m very, very nervous about getting COVID while pregnant and I work with people who are generally lax around Covid to begin with. What would you do? Context: pretty much 100% attendance at the meeting. I’m nervous about flying AND the meeting itself.

T minus 10 weeks until my wedding. Time to get serious 😭

Insight on best Atlanta neighborhoods? Looking to relocate there this fall, but thinking the market hasn’t normalized just yet to position me to find a great fixer-upper forever home.

So, I’m thinking best bet for now would be a duplex or 4-family that I can live in temporary, as the market relaxes.

What neighborhoods are most ideal for finding a nice duplex/multi-fam that would attract solid long-term professional tenants?

Would be nice if the Government legalized marijuana (including for Feds) during this lockdown. Allegedly it is quite effective at making boring things interesting.

How often do you guys apply to jobs? Every day after work? During work breaks? Only weekends? How many a week? I’ve applied to 150 jobs so far and all rejects. I’m sure I’m doing something wrong..

Anyone tried being a mentor at any third party app? I wanted to check if becoming a mentor to college student as a part time (free time) thing is ok or not?

In our job agreement, it was written that we cannot take up any other work. I guess that is more for “working for other companies” right?

Hi can anyone share about job security in Autodesk??

Hello folks,
Need referrals for business analyst role in BFSI domain. Immediate Joiner.
I have total 11 years of work experience and have 7+ years of experience as a Business Analyst. I have good exposure in BFSI industry. Have working exposure on credit risk, Regulatory Reporting, IFRS, financial data warehousing, data vault model, ETL.
Working exposure on SQL, alteryx, Tableau, visio.

I am an immediate Joiner.

Hi fishes,

I am looking for a job change, I have 2.5 years of experience as assistant accountant, any refferals will be very helpful.

Started today…enrolled in 2021 benefits but when I clicked the link for enrolling in 2022 benefits; there was nothing there. How do I get to the 2022 information?

What are some good resources to prepare for data science interviews?

How is pwc sdc Banglore for sap? Is it worth joining if compared with ey gds which if offering 1L less than pwc?

I’m hiring for a role that’s at the intersection of finance & technology within the private credit space (lender side). Small team, large book, very strong origination engine. Need someone to help our team scale out infrastructure to support growth. 2-5 exp. DM me if interested - let’s talk

Is it possible to get International mobility in UBS ?

Is there a law firm in Atlanta, where I can just shadow or volunteer?

Hi guys.

I'm looking for a job in finance field I'm a fresher just graduated in 2021 and I currently work in customer operations as no one is hiring a fresher and everyone needs prior work experience in finance.

Would appreciate if anyone can refer or let me know if there are opening in Delhi gurgoan noida indore or Mumbai preferably.

I'm willing to relocate

Capegemini
LTI
Persistent
Synechron

Which one to join for better stability, job security.

money doesn't matter.

Only job security and WLB.

A letter to my ex..

Please see comments. Apologies for the length

I wanted to take a moment to thank everyone who shares in this group. It truly helps me stay sober. I am approaching 12 months sober but have been struggling lately. While I have not relapsed, I’ve been close. Normally, before I get out of bed, I write down my reason to stat sober for the day, but lately the reasons have been lousy at best. But reading about everyone’s struggles and successes has helped get me through this past month. So thank you all for the inspiration to keep going strong!

I got a dui under the influence of alcohol a few months ago and fighting the case with my attorney. However, I am in the job market and afraid if I get an offer this will show up in my background check. How do I explain this to my potential employer if asked?

Trying to break my "It is 5 p.m." nightly drink habit. Got ideas?

1st of all: I’m super inspired by this bowl. I’m now mid-30s and recently went 50+ days without drinking and felt good/productive. (Longest streak since before turning 21) But how do you stick with it? I’m conflicted bc I haven’t hit a “rock bottom” and part of me loves a glass of wine to unwind and mark the end of the workday, but I also have a hard time stopping once I start (no such thing as 1 glass). Feel boarder-line between these 2 worlds and unsure where to go. Anyone feel similar?

It's that time...🦃

What's one thing you're grateful for in your sobriety journey at the moment?

Drop it below! 👇

Ugh was doing so well. Hit 30 days no booze then went out of town for thanksgiving and it’s like I never stopped at all. Back slid immediately right back to pouring the drinks into my yeti by 10am. Yay family. Hoping I can refocus and slide back into sobriety when im back home.

This past Wednesday (the 24th), was 3 years of sobriety for me.

In 15 years of weekend binge/blackout drinking, NEVER had I gone more than 3 weeks without a drink (typically never more than 1 weekend without a drink), and now my sobriety is counted in years (though still one day at a time).

I am beyond grateful and I know that this is something I could never do on my own.
🙏 ❤️

I’ve been sober for a few months and there are a few cocktail parties coming up at work. It’s “encouraged” to attend. Any advice? I have been to a couple backyard parties over the summer where I was around alcohol but I was mostly among friends. This is going to be different. Anyone else ever have a situation like this? Any advice is appreciated.

Looking for motivation to get me to my first Alcohol rehab appointment.

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

Is Al Anon really helpful for spouses/children affected by alcoholism or other addictions? Does anyone have insight on this

Sober Sunday check in ... how is everyone doing?

Hi all. First time posting and I could really use some guidance and help. I’m at a point that I need/want to stop drinking permanently. (Continued below)

I might have a spending problem. I don’t think (?) I have a full blown addiction, but I’m cleaning out my closet and finding stuff that is few years old, still with the tags on, and lots of duplicates. I get a dopamine hit when I find a good deal and I’m wondering if it’s going too far. I can pay my bills, but I’m wasting a lot of $$ on things I don’t need. I have multiple family members who are/were addicts and hoarders and my own behavior is making me nervous. Any other big shoppers out there?

Today was day 3 without Adderall (1st work day) & I felt extremely tired and sleepy all day. Any ideas on how to make my detox go easier? My 1 cup of Starbucks cold brew was useless lol

13 years, 3months and 21 days! Its not been easy, but definately can be accomplished! Hard work, GOD a a desire to change, and not in that order!