I’m in a season of life where I’m feeling really lonely. I just got married but my husband works all the time at an office. I work from home(50+ hrs) and don’t have any friends in this area(I live about 30 min outside city), and am studying for CPA. Does anyone have any advice? I do have my dog but I’m just feeling really down. Working from home has taken way more of a toll than I thought it would as I rarely leave the house. With winter coming I need to think of some solutions.

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Stop working from home 5 days a week. Drive in with him 2-3 days a week and work from wework type space.

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Honestly when my husband was working crazy hours in consulting (pre covid, pre kids), I loved a few nights alone… made what I wanted for dinner, had a little wine, watched some horrible tv like rhobh. And then we spent a ton of time together Friday, sat, sun and maybe one night during the week depending. But, it was a different world where I was at an office interacting w people all day M-F

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I feel your pain, I have been exceptionally lonely as a result of COVID/WFH. I have found comfort by going to as many social functions as possible - outside gym classes, dance classes, yoga, etc. You can make some great friends this way! I am also making a huge effort to spend as much time with my family as possible. Know you are not the only one struggling <3

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Yes to what others have shared. Gym class, coworking desk, religious affiliation if you have one, library based book group. Check Facebook groups and Meetups for likeminded souls. It’s a lot of work- it isn’t you, I just moved in July, I know no one in my new city, WFH, grad school. Trust me I know how hard this is.

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I feel the same way Op. where are you based ?

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Make an effort to do something with your spouse once they are back from the office at least 3 times a week. Set up a nice dinner, movie, intimate time etc. to feel connected. Those 3-4 hours a day will carry you for sometime. And don’t do the same thing every time. Try to switch it up. Some days, go out. Getaway on the weekends! Meet new people via meet-ups. Do you have an option to go into the office sometimes?

Go into the office! I bet BDO is open for business like EY.

All of our offices are open. Check out the Bdo news page to find out what the restrictions are. Hotel some space and see who is around. Might be good for your career too!

Walk your dog several times a day and greet the people you see. Strike up a conversation if possible. My husband and I also make it a point to walk together on Saturdays to catch up. Also, blue light therapy works very well.

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