Is family co-sleeping a problem in other families too? Our spousal privacy has completely vanished along with any intimacy and it sucks…

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I set the expectation before we had kids that we would not co-sleep, for this and a host of other reasons.

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Yeah no cosleeping. Kids aren’t allowed in our bed before 6:40 AM (baby gets a pass, but he sleeps in a crib in our room). We still are able to make things happen - white noise machine helps keep him asleep when things get… loud. Also, last week, my wife and I realized that the perfect option was staring at us: we’re both on a hybrid schedule and things had quieted down around 4 PM on a Thursday before the kids needed to be picked up… next thing you know we’re poster children for why employers don’t trust remote workers. Did it again on Friday too 😉

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Yea. Though in my case, our intimacy stopped independently of co-sleeping…

Check out r/deadbedrooms

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I found that subreddit and while it was incredible to hear similar sentiment from so many people, it’s also heartbreaking

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I’m very grateful my wife and I both work from home…so much more time for “activities”

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Never co slept and don’t recommend it. Sacrificing your marriage for your child isn’t worth it from what I have seen. Toddler naps 2-3 hours a day in one nap and then sleeps about 7-7 most days. Have time for SO and other things.

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I’ll take the other side of all these commenters. My son is 5 and comes into our bed in the middle of the night until he wakes up around 630. It’s nice, everyone likes the snuggles, and it’s never effected intimacy. They’ll move out of your bed by the time they go to college. Cosleeping is not a universal or unmitigated bad. Enjoy your family and your time, whatever that looks like for you and yours.

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Don’t do it. Stuck with a 6yo who keeps getting back in our bed and claiming that he has nightmares. My SO is a softee and now it’s become a habit

If the child slips into bed with you constantly, then you have a parenting problem to work through together. If the spouse stays asleep in the child’s room, I’d suggested maybe their is a marital problem to discuss.

In my case both became a marital problem till SO said live with the co-sleeping or get ready to move out.

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