Is it bad to chase a girl or to put efforts in getting her?

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TLDR; If there are other men, who had to do much less/put in much less effort in order to get attention out of her, compared to you who put in so much effort only to get the same amount of attention as the other new guy. My friend you are simping.


The amount of "efforts" its gonna take you, directly depends on 2 factors.
1. Your face
2. Your wallet

If you are below certain standards, no amount of "efforts" will work. Women will put you in the friend zone but still keep you around. If you keep trying even after she's friend zoned you, then you are simping and she's just exploiting you for your resources and attention (it's an ego boost for a woman that certain amount of guys are always there ready to serve her).

Now, how would you detect if you are in the friend zone simping for her attention??

If there are other men, who had to do much less/put in much less effort in order to get attention out of her, compared to you who put in so much effort only to get the same amount of attention at the other new guy. My friend you are simping.

Let me give you an example;
Let's say, in order to get a date you had to go through numerous favors, pick ups, drop offs, listening to her late night moods swings, all this stuff. But the new guy didn't even have to talk to her for 1day to go out with her. I think this situation would be self-explanatory.

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Many innocent guys think that if girls give them nice look she will like them. Bit infact it's natural instinct for girls that is how they boost their egos. Especially the girls who get sudden attraction.

Chasing/Simping is bad.

Putting decent efforts is attractive 😉

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Difficult to draw the line between decent efforts and simping. 😒

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Yes

There is thin line between stalking and frequently asking. Some girls straight forward say not interested and some hesitate and ignore.
Ask them seriously once. If no positive response leave it.
During high-school days I had very innocent crush and being very shy it was hard for me to speak with girl. But anyway with full efforts I asked her friend to tell my crush to be friends with me. But my crush never responded, so I got the hint and never connected with her. I knew my boundaries and anyway she went in long relationship. So if u need to chase her to be recognized then it's not love but fail obsession.

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