I’ve been dating a guy who’s in the process of separating from his husband. I’ve found it emotionally difficult that he is not available as much as would be expected - he has to sleep at home most nights, we can’t really have a social life together yet, our weekend time together is weaved in around his family obligations (they have a child), etc. How do I tell whether I’m being unreasonable or whether I’m in an unhealthy situation?

I grew up poor and was obsessed w financial security. After investing my blood, sweat and tears into my career for years, I’ve decided I don’t care about my career or earnings as long as I have enough to support my family. We are happier than ever making less and saving little. I wasn’t there when my mom was sick and died because I was working and my employer didn’t allow me to be in a mental headspace to be a good person for my family. I can never change that but I can be better going forward.

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

I got an email last night from a 7th-grade parent because her son said I mentioned the words "male privilege" in class, and she is very concerned about how that is related to ELA (she said "reading"), and she is concerned about this being taught in public schools. To be clear, I didn't do a lesson on this subject but we did discuss rights versus privileges. I've had multiple parents contact the school/get upset with me because of things like his. It's exhausting... Thoughts?

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

Brand new baby lawyer dumb question - I am tasked with drafting response to request to produce. How long should this take? And follow up… how do I bill this?

It’s my birthday in a few minutes. 2021 has been a terrible year for me. My marriage ended. It wasn’t a bad end though. We are still close, just not romantic partners anymore. The very first dog I ever had died and I couldn’t go see her because of the quarantine. I didn’t get a promotion that I more than deserved. I don’t think I get paid well. Most of my friends moved out of the city and I’m having to meet new people at 32. I love my job but it’s incredibly stressful. I’m terribly lonely.

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

I need 11 L to connect with friends.plz help me to get that

My anxiety has been at bay after changing my job and just feeling like I HAVE control over my life. But now it's back because I feel like I'm behind in other aspects of my life (I.e dating). I have so many friends getting engaged and I just feel... anxious since I am SO single. I'm 27, and I know I'm at that age where people do but it just sucks. I've been on the apps too and it's just... more demotivating honestly than anything else

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

Poll on general attitudes towards open relationships? I’m in one and find that some folks are totally non-judgmental about it, while others are so vicious/rude about it. Curious about your opinions! I understand that every open relationship is different, and each couple defines their own arrangement/rules. For context, ours is a passive one that’s hardly acted on, but we both have Grindr and meet guys for fun on the very odd occasion (whether together or apart). If you’re in one, describe yours!

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

Ok so another FAANG has confirmed layoff this week. Amazon joining the layoffs group with 10k layoffs!!

Hey Fishes,. I got offer letter from Genpact for 20 LPA, position: Lead Consultant (SAP SD). In onboarding page in profile it is showing, I am assigned to ITO department. Can someone tell me ITO department stands for and responsibilities.

What salary should be expected of a business control role in Citadel securities, working under CFO/CRO office in NYC. With total 10+ YOE.
This role sits directly under enterprise risk head.

@citadel

How do you know when it's time to break up with your therapist?

If you’re not into drinking/partying, what are some ideas that 2 people can do in NYC on New Year’s Eve? (Except the ball drop). Brand new to the city, appreciate the suggestions. TIA

Anyone work for Kraken? If so what are some pros/cons about the company? I work financial crime investigations, and had a recruiter reach out about a law enforcement production job. Opinions on salary, PTO, and other benefits would be helpful!

Would agencies be open to people freelancing from other countries?

Hello All,
Any EY GDS PMO here?

Does FSO (Financial Services Office) have the same busy season as every other industry? Is it easier or harder?

"Why do you want to leave your current organization ?". What are some of the good responses when you've spent less than 6 months in your current organization ?

Anyone else struggling to make meaningful friendships in b school? It’s only been two weeks but I’m struggling to go beyond superficial talk with anyone

Does anyone have a POC at TikTok regarding gaining access to their self-serve paid Ads platform? Anyone having trouble gaining access to it?

Is being a radiation therapist a good career? I have a nutrition and exercise science bachelors degree and was thinking to do an associate’s in radiation therapy. Would I be able to do a bachelor’s in radiation therapy if I transfer over some of my credits? is this a career with good status?

My status at Accenture portal is Offer accepted.
When it will change to 'Hired' ?

Any cyber security folks here? or those interested in systems engineering? Potential role with TC 120-180, awesome team and wlb, at least compared to consulting.

I am an associate project manager at a top agency and know I am severely underpaid. But Can I get a range of what I should be paid?

Any recommendations for the best cities in Europe to visit with young kids (5, 2, 0)? Looking for a week after visiting Paris or London

NYC 🐠 Anyone try the dating app MOTTO? Any good?

What is the reason why we still can’t donate blood? It’s 2022.

Let’s move out of NYC SF together lol . Maybe try LA ?

Ryan Murphy is the new Aaron Spelling. Big rich producer making money off of cheesy shlock. I guess you can’t take the Indiana out of the boy. Heart’s in the right place though. Bless his heart.

Poll on general attitudes towards open relationships? I’m in one and find that some folks are totally non-judgmental about it, while others are so vicious/rude about it. Curious about your opinions! I understand that every open relationship is different, and each couple defines their own arrangement/rules. For context, ours is a passive one that’s hardly acted on, but we both have Grindr and meet guys for fun on the very odd occasion (whether together or apart). If you’re in one, describe yours!

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

Carl Nassib 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Any Gayglers (Gays @ Google) here?

Well I recently told a guy I have been seeing I have HSV-2. We have not yet been physical but it’s been heading that direction. Man I hate this part - waiting to see what his response will be after he researches and talks to his doctor. I’m on daily meds which help reduce transmission risk. You’d think that since HSV-2 affects 20% of Americans and likely a higher % of gay men, there would be less taboo but it’s hardly ever talked about. Anyone else in my shoes? Or had it disclosed to them?

Married LGBT 🐟, what did you do with your last names? My boyfriend and I are discussing and trying to figure out if we want to hyphenate, take one, keep ours the same, or merge. Thoughts?

Thoughts on the term “latinx?” I see A LOT of straight “Latinos” reacting poorly to it.

things to do in Vegas? favorite restaurants, hotels, spas, etc?

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

If u also believe these queens fall in line as an evolution of a disco pokemon (ranked most accessible to more “acquired taste”)…then DM me and let’s set a date:
1. Dua Lipa
2. Kylie Minogue
3. Jessie Ware
4. Roisin Murphy

I love when randomly talking to a straight man and they out of nowhere say “I have a girlfriend” all shaky and nervous. It gives DL guys in sweatpants tease and that I’m doing something right 😂

I’m worried that my voice, communication style, and body language comes across as too effeminate for our straight clients and peers. I’m transitioning to sales now and am insecure that my personality and appearance may hinder sales gen? Client industry is very old school. Can LGBT partners//Ds/MDs chime in how they managed the same transition?

Hooked up with a guy I really like in Montreal, too bad I live in the States :(