Just got discharged with our first baby and it’s really overwhelming as I am still trying to passively run a team.. headache and fatigue make it quite difficult..any advice out there!?

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This is a special time - work is not - focus on the here and now. They only stay that little ball of cuteness that snuggles perfectly into your shoulder for a little while. Take full advantage of that time because it will be gone before you know it.

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Do you not have paternity leave?!?!

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Paternity leave. Your spouse needs you much more than your firm does.

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Take leave. You’re shortchanging both sides.

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Take leave, the project will survive. Be with your beautiful family, congrats!

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I get where you’re coming from OP, but I’ll offer that if this is your first, the first two weeks at home are a tough adjustment. All the planning in the world doesn’t really prepare you for the ups and downs. My wife and I slept in shifts for about the first 4 days after we brought our oldest home. The key to success there in my experience is teamwork, especially if you guys don’t have much family or other help around.

Like others have said, take the leave now and be there for your partner. They’ll appreciate you for it in the long run.

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OP - I think waiting to take leave only works if someone else is available to help. Often this is her or your mom, or maybe a sister or aunt. If help is available the. I would wait. If it’s just the two of you, please take leave now - this is when she needs extra hands the most.

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Total agreement. Doula, family, or something

Take leave now if you can. Your wife needs your help and support now. It was a huge adjustment for my wife and I, and I don’t think she could have made it without you help.

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Don’t forget how physically traumatic giving birth is (and I don’t use that term lightly) for your wife. Your wife is recovering from one of the most brutal physical events ever - even without the newborn in the mix it would be hard and she would need your help so she can rest and recover!

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I’m planning to take 8 weeks after Christmas holidays.. want to try and powe through the next 2/3 weeks..and then have a more prolonged off time..

Thoughts on this?

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Hey get coverage for the time you plan to work. Even if you are Working at home. You can’t possibly help the new mom while attention is divided.

Caffeine and delegation

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Is there a offshore team ?

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We’ve had 4 kids and I usually go back to work for the first couple weeks because my mother-in-law comes and stays with us. So when she leaves I take my paternity leave. Helps to spread out the support.
I don’t drink coffee or anything with caffeine so it can be tough when you hardly got sleep. Take a short power nap in your car when you arrive in the morning.

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